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Control is Overrated: Embracing Non-Attachment in Life as a Business Owner with Clayton Olson
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The Buddha said that attachment is the root of all suffering. When you get too wrapped up in #perfectionism and #peoplepleasing due to your attachment to a certain outcome or a desire to maintain a certain identity, you are setting yourself up for potential suffering. You cannot control every outcome. And by being so caught up thinking about the future, you may miss out on all the good things around you in the present. Today, co-hosts Ben Easter and Clayton Olson discuss #detachment and how to overcome your #fearoffailure to let go of the fantasy of control.
The truth is that you cannot know the future in advance, so there is no use being so attached to certain outcomes. Ben explains that if you think about life like a game, the whole purpose of a game is not necessarily to win but to learn how to win. The enjoyment comes from overcoming challenges and it would not be as fun if those challenges did not exist. Life is much the same way in that you will likely not feel as successful without having to first overcome challenges. Clayton shares that one of the main problems with getting hung up on certain outcomes is that it can cause tunnel vision and you may miss out on other opportunities as well as set yourself up for sadness when the outcome differs from your expectations.
By embracing non-attachment, you open yourself up to feeling more gratitude in the present. Even situations that do not go the way you had hoped can still end up working in ways that lead you to your goal. You may not be able to control every outcome for your future, but you can control how you react and how you choose to feel about the outcome you do reach.
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Connect with Clayton:
Website: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtKW9swe4-j596iCIh2_nrA
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/claytonrolson/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/
Connect with Ben:
Website: https://lucidshiftcoaching.com/
Lucid Shift Coaching IG: https://www.instagram.com/lucid_shift_coaching/
Project Candlelight: https://airtable.com/shr5p0P2793RtRk2k
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