The Shakespeare Mindset: Improve your life the Bard way not the hard way

“O horror, horror, horror! Tongue nor heart cannot conceive nor name thee!” Do you ever find yourself scrolling down your phone and stopping only when something truly terrifying grabs your attention? (You do know that's the economic model for these platforms don't you? You know they're not deliberately trying to scare you, it's just they know your old brain is wired to read the grim stuff so that you stay on their platform and generously hand over you data to them.)Has there ever been a more anxious time to be a member of the human race? Actually yes in Shakespeare's time they had several plagues, a climate disaster, forever wars, fears of big food shortages and angry men arriving at ports to shout at the immigrants fleeing in boats across the English Channel.This week I'm hoping to bring your anxiety levels down from "aaarrggghh" to "ahh", although removing all those rrrgggs was made harder when half way through writing one of those Large Language Model companies currently burning a hole in the whole of America's finances gleefully announced that they were developing a machine that could probably wipe out all of humanity in the next few years or so. Don't Panic. Keep Calm and try not to get too stressed by those annoying tea towels that urge you to keep calm and grow a bonsai tree or whatever. You can start by breathing gently, being aware of your physical needs, but also by seeing how a number of Shakespeare characters coped with the stress of plagues, angry kings and heavy crowns.Plays featured in this episode are Hamlet, Henry the Fourth, Much Ado About Nothing (for the first time I'm delighted to say), Romeo and Juliet, Othello, King Lear, Macbeth - all the big anxious heavyweights there.

“O I have suffered with those that I saw suffer.’We’re all only trying to be reasonable aren’t we, and yet the whole direction of discourse over the last decade has been steered by half a dozen social media dudes and their platforms towards certainty about our own beliefs and hostility towards anyone who disagrees with us.In this episode I'm looking at empathy. What is it? Should we have more? Or is there already too much? Shakespeare was brilliant at showing both sides of every argument, and I am hoping this week to use his skills at this to ensure that we find the right balance. I feel like I learn something new every episode I write of this, and I feel like I've learned a little more about how to appreciate the views of people I disagree with.Not least with the Bard himself, whose play The Merchant of Venice made my school life a misery.Plays featured in this episode: Measure for Measure, Julius Caesar, As You Like It and yes, The Merchant of Venice, previously known in this household as The Schoolboy Taunting of Cohen.

"I have touched the highest point of all my greatness."Have you ever thought about how great it would be to be great? Who among us doesn't at the very least aspire to being the best at what we do?You may be familiar with the Shakespeare line "Some are born great, some achieve greatness and some have greatness thrust upon 'em". Its popularity has been helped because it chimes with everything we read on the internet that offers advice or solutions for improving our lives.The problem is - it's a scam.It's what we might call fake muse - like so much of the internet, and the Large Language Models that are talking to us like the servile robots they are, tugging their metal forelocks and congratulating us for asking them such brilliant questions. The quote comes from a letter designed to flatter and trick the reader, Malvolio, into thinking his boss loves him.Everywhere you look on the internet is motivational advice telling you that with hard work, discipline and application you can become truly great, but this fails to address the most important question - what do we mean by greatness?This week I'll be reframing the definition of greatness. I'm not promising that I can help you run the hundred metres in less than ten seconds, but by the end of the show you'll have a better understanding of what it means to be truly great, and how you might be able to achieve it.Oh and I'll explain how I was scammed this week just like Malvolio.Plays featured in this episode are Twelfth Night, Twelfth Night and Twelfth Night, with a sprinkling of Hamlet and The Tempest and special guest appearance of Falstaff.

"Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin, as self-neglecting."Have you ever agreed to do something for someone while your whole body was screaming NO! Are you scared of the consequences of disappointing the people closest to you?Well hello there friend, come and join me here at SOPPY - the Society Of People Pleasing Yes-men. I've always been a people-pleaser and you know what, there've been a few times when it's been really useful. People liked me - which was very helpful for the job I did for ten years of stand-up comedian, and I was pretty good at defusing potentially difficult situations. But on other occasions I've put other people's needs ahead of my own, or taken responsibility for other people's emotions, and there comes a time when you have to prioritise yourself.There's a simple and obvious way to turn people-pleasing to your advantage that I've never seen anyone try but it works for me. I'm hoping that by the end of the episode you'll have learned to check in on your emotions next time you find yourself saying yes when you mean no; you'll learn the power of 'let me get back to you on that' and you'll understand how to sit with your discomfort.Just hoping, thanks to the Shakespeare Mindset I'm no longer judging my own self-worth on whether or not I make you happy. (But I will be delighted if you succeed. Old habits die hard, or as Bruce Willis would say, die hard too.)Plays mentioned in this episode are Antony and Cleopatra, Hamlet, Timon of Athens, King Lear, Coriolanus and Tybalt & Mercutio, otherwise known as Romeo & Juliet.

"Knowing I lov'd my books, he furnish'd me From mine own library with volumes that I prize above my dukedom."Do you love to read, but only on your phone? Reading books is a key way to making us less anxious. If only we could spend more time with our heads buried in a good book - then again there's always a danger people will think we're a skinny little swot who should stop reading and go out and do something.Along the way you'll discover theKey Shakeawayswhich are:1 Shakespeare was a voracious reader but sometimes he has a bit of a downer on it - in other words, read what others have to say, but you don't always have to agree with what you read, and you can make your own mind up.2 it's not difficult to make it a daily habit, even if it's only ten minutes or so to begin with and3 why stepping away from your phone & immersing yourself in the paper version of a book not only stops you being constantly distracted, but also makes you better at concentrating.Shakespeare plays referred to in this episode: Julius Caesar, Richard III, The Tempest, Hamlet.Other books that also get a look-in:The Hitch Hiker's Guide to The Galaxy, Aristotle's Politics. Warning: occasional reference to Mein Kampf - which, to be fair, is actually a book.

"Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak / knits up the o-er-wrought heart and bids it break."Do you sometimes find yourself feeling sad without realising why? You're not alone, like many people there's a chance you're dealing with melancholy. In today's episode I'll be looking at the reasons we sometimes feel this way, why we indulge the feeling and how to make a few small adjustments to make it so much easier to live with.Key Shakeaways1 First thing to do is acknowledge the sadness. Don't pretend nothing's wrong2 Don't overthink it3 Do something! Anything. Get a hobby. That's what I decided to do two years ago and here I am at Episode 26 of theShakespeare Mindset. I had no idea when I picked up that giant fusty old book from my schooldays that had always seemed impenentrable that it would take me on an amazing trip through Shakespeare to a realisation that 425 years ago he had so much to say about how to live our lives with intent, humour and free from anxiety.Shakespeare plays and sonnets referred to in this episode: The Merchant of Venice, As You Like It, Twelfth Night, Hamlet. Sonnets 30, 66, 71

"I can no other answer make, but thanks, and thanks, and ever thanks."There's nothing wrong with gratitude, as far as I'm concerned, but I'm starting to get a bit fed up with privileged middle class people like me walking around expressing gratitude for the universe as though that's going to make everything okay. If I'm sounding a bit grumpy I suppose it's because I always had a bit of a bad attitude towards gratitude. When I was a kid it was presented to me as something I resented. If I didn't thank grandma profusely enough for her latest useless birthday present my mum would tell me off for not showing enough gratitude. (And by the way, when you're trying to type your shownotes at speed one of the hardest words to consistently spell correctly is gratitude.) But how much is enough? Shakespeare understood the dangers of making gratitude dependent on certain flattering behavious. King Lear has three daughters and he famously punishes the third one for not showing him enough gratitude. Oops chose the wrong one there mate. Imagine thinking just because you're the king that people should be forced to show you gratitude. Timon of Athens is the most generous king you'll ever meet, he expects nothing in return - until things start to go a little bit wrong, and debts are called in. Suddenly all those people he thought were his friends, simply because they liked hanging around him when he had money, are nowhere to be seen. Now he rails against their ingratitude. He's like my mum, only a lot angrier, also my mum never got banished from the kingdom, at least so far as i know.At this point I think okay, I get it now. Timon's journey from riches to rags incorporates anger and denial along the way. But as the journey continues he comes to terms with the loss, and realises all that wealth was meaningless. When things go wrong, showing gratitude for the things that matter in life can be empowering. Then again, if you listen to this show all the way to the end, and leave a nice review wherever you listen, I will be eternally grateful to you. Thank you for reading up to now. (Okay Dave this is getting obsequious, leave the poor reader alone.)

"To unpathed waters, undreamed shores."Every story has a beginning a middle and an end. This chestnut is so ingrained into our psyche and from such an early age that we might wonder if it’s included with eyes, legs, arms and the rest under ‘stuff we’re born with’. Long before we learned how to write things down homo sapiens were telling stories through pictures and sounds to teach survival and morality.The Odyssey is nearly 3,000 years old and yet still speaks to us as though very little has changed. If you’re wondering why this three-hours long film is proving such a hit among the attention-deprived smartphone scrolling public, the answer is that the odyssey is a journey we all take, one we’re all familiar with, a story of who we are now, where we’ve come from, and where we’re looking to go. It also gives them a new classic heroic story to tell their friends – "I’ve just spent three hours in the cinema and I didn’t look at my phone once!"In this episode I spend a little bit of time looking at Shakespeare's own journey from Stratford to showbiz, although we know almost nothing about the first few years. It makes more sense to look at the effect the Odyssey itself had on Shakespeare, and how he used the various stories of Homer and Ovid within his own plays. There's Cleopatra in Antony and Cleopatra, who so beguiles the Roman Emperor that he'd rather hang out with her in Egypt than attend to his duties in Rome. I mean, wouldn't you do the same? I'm sure he was treated with great reverence in Rome but wouldn't you rahter be hanging out in Egypt with a fellow ruler, pretending you're conducting great affairs of state when really all you're conductin is affairs?Then there's Titus Andronicus (look away now squeamish people), Troilus and Cressida, and of course The Tempest. Yes I always seem to come back to The Tempest don't I. Hard to avoid that play in this case, shipwrecks landing on desert island are all the rage in The Odyssey.There's also my own personal journey story related to that play - in my valiant battle with Chiltern Railways, did I get to see it on time or had I upset the Gods of train travel so much that they conspired to keep me away? All is revealed at the end of the episode.