The Parenting Cipher
This Girl Is On Fire: How To Raise Confident Black Kids
In this episode of The Parenting Cipher, M.J. Fievre, author of the new book Raising Confident Black Kids, gives practical tips for tackling the tough issues of racism and racial inequalities as they apply to our children in loving and empowering ways. M.J. reminds us to listen to our children, acknowledge their feelings, and affirm our unconditional love for them. Learn about increasing your child’s personal agency to impact their world and beyond in this episode of The Parenting Cipher.
Host of The Parenting Cipher, Genie Dawkins is a single mother of four and has over 25 years of being a parent advocate of special needs children. In addition to obtaining her Certification in Integrative Health Coaching, Lateefa holds an M.S. in Non-Profit Management and a B.S. in Social Sciences. Genie is the best-selling author of two books “Not My Child: Navigating Your Child’s Learning Difficulties with IEP’s and Education Resources” and a recent release “The Joyful Family Planner”. As an educational advocacy specialist, her mission is to help parents achieve a balanced life and overcome inevitable challenges both at school and home in a way that empowers parents and children.
About our Guest:
M.J. Fievre is an author, professional speaker, and workshop facilitator from Haiti. M.J. authored Happy, Okay?: Poems about Anxiety, Depression, Hope, and Survival (2019) and Badass Black Girl: Questions, Quotes, and Affirmations for Teens (2020). She also helps others write their way through trauma, building community, and create social change. Her new book Raising Confident Black Kids is out now.
Insight from this episode:
- M.J.’s best strategies for raising confident Black kids.
- How to explain systemic racism to your Black children in an empowering way.
- Strategies we can teach our children about how to navigate racist systems.
- Nurturing and supportive positive coping mechanisms in our children.
- Tips for teachers (Black and non-Black) can help raise confident Black kids.
Quotes from the show:
- “Very often, kids are not able to see things beyond their own world. Everything you say is taken at face value, and they only apply it to their own situation.” –M.J. Fievre The Parenting Cipher Ep. #6
- “You have to understand how the system works in order for you to be able to talk to your kids about the way to approach the impact of systemic racism.” –M.J. Fievre The Parenting Cipher Ep. #6
- “Our babies don’t get to be babies as long as our counterparts.” –Genie Dawkins The Parenting Cipher Ep. #6
- “This conversation is going to be had over and over because the situation is not going to change from one day to the next.” –M.J. Fievre The Parenting Cipher Ep. #6
- “My focus is always to build up the individual first… making sure that they know they are wonderful, that they have talents, that they can change their world, that they can be who they want to be.” –M.J. Fievre The Parenting Cipher Ep. #6
- “Remind them all the time that your love is unconditional because what racism does is trying to rob you from your identity, your sense of belonging. It instills in you the fact that you are unlovable. I think that reminding kids that they are loved is important as a tool to counter racism, to counter the racist messages that they get from other people.” –M.J. Fievre The Parenting Cipher Ep. #6
- “Even with strict curriculums, teachers have a choice with how they teach certain notions.” –M.J. Fievre The Parenting Cipher Ep. #6
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