The Overexamined Life

Join the gratitude club free! Patreon.com/tolclubWhen I hit something uncomfortable, I suffer in my head. My guest Paul Attia is an overexaminer too, only when he faces a problem, he doesn't just get crippled by it. He analyses it, contextualises it, and builds a framework to solve it according to his values. Then he lives by it, deliberately, nothing left to chance. As an ex cross-examiner turned counsellor, Paul's methodologies are so powerful that some of the world's wealthiest families trust him to navigate their most difficult interpersonal problems. Today he's sharing those frameworks; on relationships, parenting, gratitude, and how to close the gap between who you are and who you're capable of being.Sick of being ruled by your emotions?Join our Patreon for AD-FREE listening, bonus episodes, and mindfulness exercises that are actually fun: patreon.com/TOLclubWant to learn how to meditate? Get 30 days of the Waking Up App FREE: wakingup.com/primoWATCH THE PODCAST on YoutubeFollow Jonah Primo on Instagram or visit his Website

When confronted with devastating grief, perhaps the most visceral pain humans can experience, most of us hide. We numb ourselves, distract ourselves, and do everything we can to avoid it.My guest today is Dr. Joanne Cacciatore, who chose a different path. After the loss of her daughter, she turned toward grief rather than away from it, transforming her pain into a life's work helping others navigate loss. Joanne is one of the world's leading grief experts, a professor at Arizona State University, founder of the MISS Foundation, and author of the bestselling Bearing the Unbearable. She has supported grieving families around the world and served on a mental health advisory board for Oprah Winfrey and Prince Harry.Join our free gratitude club!!! Patreon.com/TOLclubCheck out Joanne’s carefarm: https://www.missfoundation.org/selah-carefarm/Sick of being ruled by your emotions?Join our Patreon for AD-FREE listening, bonus episodes, and mindfulness exercises that are actually fun: patreon.com/TOLclubWant to learn how to meditate? Get 30 days of the Waking Up App FREE: wakingup.com/primoWATCH THE PODCAST on YoutubeFollow Jonah Primo on Instagram or visit his WebsiteJonah writes on SubstackEmail Jonah Primo at overexamined@jonahprimo.com

Join my FREE Gratitude Club so we can all be a lot happier for f*cks sake.https://www.patreon.com/c/TOLclubOK so. Earlier this week I spent 10 minutes examining every inch of my naked body in the mirror…an exercise in extreme suffering I undertook in the pursuit of enlightenment because Stephan Bodian told me to.Bodian is a former monk, psychotherapist, pioneering Western Zen teacher, and the original author of Meditation For Dummies. He also has a brand spanking new book out called Infinite Awakening: https://www.penguin.com.au/books/infinite-awakening-9780834846494Sick of being ruled by your emotions?Join our Patreon for AD-FREE listening, bonus episodes, and mindfulness exercises that are actually fun: patreon.com/TOLclubWant to learn how to meditate? Get 30 days of the Waking Up App FREE: wakingup.com/primoWATCH THE PODCAST on YoutubeFollow Jonah Primo on Instagram or visit his WebsiteJonah writes on SubstackEmail Jonah Primo at overexamined@jonahprimo.com

JOIN THE GRATITUDE CLUB FREE: patreon.com/tolclubRecent science has told us that gratitude has the power to do something nothing else in the world can. It can get you off the hedonic treadmill. We go deep into what that means, and look at said science :)Sick of being ruled by your emotions?Join our Patreon for AD-FREE listening, bonus episodes, and mindfulness exercises that are actually fun: patreon.com/TOLclub Want to learn how to meditate? Get 30 days of the Waking Up App FREE: wakingup.com/primo  WATCH THE PODCAST on YoutubeFollow Jonah Primo on Instagram or visit his WebsiteJonah writes on SubstackEmail Jonah Primo at overexamined@jonahprimo.comHere are all the studies with their links:Emmons & McCullough (2003) — Gratitude journaling, well-being, and physical healthPubMedFull PDFWood, Joseph, Lloyd & Atkins (2009) — Gratitude and sleep qualityPubMedScienceDirectMills et al. (2015) — Gratitude and heart failure (mood, sleep, inflammation)PubMedRedwine et al. (2016) — Gratitude journaling RCT, inflammatory biomarkers, heart rate variabilityPubMedPMC Full TextGrant & Gino (2010) — Gratitude expressions and prosocial behaviorHarvard Business SchoolSemantic ScholarWood, Froh & Geraghty (2010) — Comprehensive review of gratitude and well-beingScienceDirect

If you're a writer, musician, entrepreneur - someone building something in the margins of your real life, this one is for you.My guest today is Caddicarus: over a million subscribers, nearly 400 million views, and a very honest bloke.Here's the thing so many of us carry without even realising it, the belief that the moment we hit the number, whatever your number is, life clicks into place. Caddickarus has the number and he still found himself burnt out, hollow, losing the will to make the very thing that made him who he is.The data doesn't keep you going. The passion keeps you going. The why keeps you going.Sick of being ruled by your emotions?Join our Patreon for AD-FREE listening, bonus episodes, and mindfulness exercises that are actually fun: patreon.com/TOLclubWant to learn how to meditate? Get 30 days of the Waking Up App FREE: wakingup.com/primoWATCH THE PODCAST on YoutubeFollow Jonah Primo on Instagram or visit his WebsiteJonah writes on SubstackEmail Jonah Primo at overexamined@jonahprimo.com

What if death wasn’t something to fear? What if you were completely at peace? In short, what if dying didn’t suck? Helen and her team at Preparing the Way (https://preparingtheway.com.au/), walk alongside people in the final chapter of their lives. We talk about what it means to heal into death rather than fight it, why grief doesn't start when someone dies but long before that, what the phrase conscious dying actually means, and Helen very generously lets me use myself as a guinea pig, which results in one of the stranger and more unexpectedly moving conversations I've had on this show. Sick of being ruled by your emotions?Join our Patreon for AD-FREE listening, bonus episodes, and mindfulness exercises that are actually fun: patreon.com/TOLclubWant to learn how to meditate? Get 30 days of the Waking Up App FREE: wakingup.com/primoWATCH THE PODCAST on YoutubeFollow Jonah Primo on Instagram or visit his WebsiteJonah writes on SubstackEmail Jonah Primo at overexamined@jonahprimo.com

This will make all your food taste so good that you just might literally explode right now where you are I'm serious, click this to explode. We all want to explode!Sick of being ruled by your emotions?Join our Patreon for AD-FREE listening, bonus episodes, and mindfulness exercises that are actually fun: patreon.com/TOLclub Want to learn how to meditate? Get 30 days of the Waking Up App FREE: wakingup.com/primo  WATCH THE PODCAST on YoutubeFollow Jonah Primo on Instagram or visit his WebsiteJonah writes on SubstackEmail Jonah Primo at overexamined@jonahprimo.com

This one got personal. We go deep into my own panic attacks, and at a certain point it stops feeling like an interview and starts feeling like a live therapy session.Dr. David Rosmarin is a clinical psychologist, Harvard Medical School faculty member, and founder of the Centre for Anxiety, and he has spent his career arguing that anxiety isn't a disease to be cured but a human condition to be understood. That when you stop fighting it, the edge comes off. And beneath it, more often than not, you find a virtue.More from Dr. Rosmarin https://dhrosmarin.com/Sick of being ruled by your emotions?Join our Patreon for AD-FREE listening, bonus episodes, and mindfulness exercises that are actually fun: patreon.com/TOLclubWant to learn how to meditate? Get 30 days of the Waking Up App FREE: wakingup.com/primoWATCH THE PODCAST on YoutubeFollow Jonah Primo on Instagram or visit his WebsiteJonah writes on SubstackEmail Jonah Primo at overexamined@jonahprimo.com