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Lesbian Labels - The Other What - S1 E2

Season 1, Ep. 2

Diving into Lesbian Labels: Exploring Identity


In this engaging episode of The Other What, hosts Sharon and Désirée delve into the intricate world of lesbian labels. With a plethora of new terms emerging since they first came out, the duo embarks on a journey to understand and discuss the 27 types of lesbians listed on OnceUponAJrny.com. From "stud" to "chapstick lesbian," they explore how these labels resonate with their personal experiences and the broader LGBTQ+ community.


Désirée shares her evolving identity from a super femme in the late ‘90s to her current comfort in a more masculine role. Sharon reflects on her own label as a "mask" lesbian and the peculiarities of the list, including the racial undertones in some labels. The hosts also humorously discuss terms like "doppelbanger," "hey, mama lesbian," and the fascinating concept of "stone butch."


Join Sharon and Désirée as they navigate these labels with humor, insight, and a critical eye, questioning the necessity and impact of categorizing identities within the queer community.


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00:00 This is the second episode of the other what podcast

01:22 From a lesbian label perspective, how do you label yourself

07:03 This list is so weird. No offense, it's written by a white woman

10:47 Doppelganger describes a couple who look alike

14:17 Do your friends identify as versatile soft or chapstick lesbians

16:36 Sharon: I had no idea all this stuff was out there

21:06 Sharon Goh: I think power lesbians compliment each other



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