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Better Than Yesterday: Osher Günsberg

483: The Surprising Positives of Seeking Solitude with Kerri Sackville

Ep. 806

What if I told you, that there was a simple way to improve your creativity, self-awareness, focus, concentration, and reduce your stress and anxiety?

It’s free.

It’s not exercise.

It’s not sleep.

Any ideas?

Turns out - a way to achieve all of those things is solitude.

Not sitting in a room alone on your phone, or watching telly - no.

That’s not it.


Just being with your thoughts.

Yet Solitude is an interesting thing isn’t it?

Too much of it is a bit hard to come back from.

Not enough of it - and life can become quite difficult.

But what about making time to find it, deliberately?

Is it even a good idea?

Turns out - it is.

A very good idea.

And Kerri Sackville has done her homework, written a book about it and is here to chat about it.

Particularly about what happens to us when we seek out too little, and too much of it.

As someone who’s done both - I found this conversation fascinating, and I changed my daily habits because of it.

Kerri Sackville is an Australian writer who is a regular columnist for Sunday Life magazine, Sydney Morning Herald and Melbourne Age.

Over the years, Kerri has appeared frequently on commercial and ABC radio networks, podcasts, and TV shows including Sunrise, The Morning Show and The Daily Edition.

She’s written five books, including her latest “The secret life of you” which is about spending time alone.

If you can’t recall the last time that happened, this conversation might be what you need to help you carve out some time to make it happen.

Kerri is a hoot.

Enjoy this , I certainly did.

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