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Understanding the Enneagram w/ Abbey Howe
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Jacquis Neal and Sophia Wilson Pelton invite Enneagram expert Abbey Howe into the pillow fort to decode personality types and bedtime habits.
What You'll Hear:
Nine Types, One You: Abbey breaks down the Enneagram’s nine personality types—from the ambitious Striver to the loyal, anxiety-prone Loyalist—and explains why this system focuses on your core motivations, not just your behavior.
Three Meets Six: After taking the quiz, Jacquis and Sophia compare notes on being equal parts achiever and overthinker. Abbey walks them through core fears, desires, and the surprisingly tender “soul message” each type needs to hear.
Sleep, According to Your Type: Junk journaling for busy brains. Cozy fantasy novels for anxious minds. Abbey shares gentle, type-specific ways to unplug, unwind, and maybe even treat rest like an accomplishment.
CHAPTERS
00:00 Intro & welcome
00:01:00 Meet Enneagram expert Abbey Howe
00:02:54 Junk journaling for better sleep
00:06:24 Why the Enneagram matters
00:08:00 The nine Enneagram types explained
00:14:00 Jacquis and Sophia share their results
00:16:00 Core fears, desires, and soul messages
00:21:30 Sleep tips for Threes and Sixes
What You'll Hear:
Nine Types, One You: Abbey breaks down the Enneagram’s nine personality types—from the ambitious Striver to the loyal, anxiety-prone Loyalist—and explains why this system focuses on your core motivations, not just your behavior.
Three Meets Six: After taking the quiz, Jacquis and Sophia compare notes on being equal parts achiever and overthinker. Abbey walks them through core fears, desires, and the surprisingly tender “soul message” each type needs to hear.
Sleep, According to Your Type: Junk journaling for busy brains. Cozy fantasy novels for anxious minds. Abbey shares gentle, type-specific ways to unplug, unwind, and maybe even treat rest like an accomplishment.
CHAPTERS
00:00 Intro & welcome
00:01:00 Meet Enneagram expert Abbey Howe
00:02:54 Junk journaling for better sleep
00:06:24 Why the Enneagram matters
00:08:00 The nine Enneagram types explained
00:14:00 Jacquis and Sophia share their results
00:16:00 Core fears, desires, and soul messages
00:21:30 Sleep tips for Threes and Sixes
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