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Getting Engaged the Neurodivergent Way!

Ep. 116

In this episode of The Neurodivergent Experience, Simon Scott shares some exciting personal news — he's engaged!


What begins as a conversation about the proposal quickly evolves into a wider discussion about milestones, traditions, social expectations, and what happens when neurodivergent people choose to do things their own way.


Simon reflects on planning a proposal that worked for both him and his fiancé, from accommodating anxiety around surprises to creating an experience that felt meaningful, comfortable, and authentic. Jordan shares his thoughts on celebrations, weddings, family expectations, and why so many social traditions seem to exist simply because “that’s how it’s always been done.”


A funny, heartfelt, and deeply relatable conversation about love, milestones, and creating a life that works for you rather than the expectations of everyone else.


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