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EP#508 - Overcoming Guilt and Fear in Setting Boundaries with Special Guests: Jan and Jillian

Season 6, Ep. 508

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Summary

Jan and Jillian, experts in boundaries, discuss the importance of boundaries in personal and professional life. They share their personal and professional experiences that led them to become passionate about boundaries. Boundaries help establish mutual alignment, respect, and open communication in relationships. They are based on shared values and allow individuals to get their needs met. Setting healthy boundaries benefits relationships, mental health, and overall well-being. Parents can teach children the importance of boundaries from an early age by helping them identify their values and establish limits. Overcoming guilt and fear of setting boundaries involves self-reflection, understanding childhood wounds, and rebuilding trust with oneself.


Who are Jan and Jillian Yuhas?

Jan Yuhas, M.A., MFT and Jillian Yuhas, M.A., MFT are Relationship Experts, Boundary and Conflict Resolution Consultants, and the authors of 'Boundary Badass: A Powerful Method For Elevating Your Value and Relationships.' Jan and Jillian are devoted to helping value-driven entrepreneurs and companies cultivate mutually beneficial relationships, resolve conflict respectfully, and master the art of setting boundaries. With over two decades of interpersonal psychology and mediation experience, the sisterly duo specializes in unlocking others’ inherent power, voicing their value, and paving the way toward growth and success worldwide.


How to Connect?

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/janandjillian/

Website: www.JanAndJillian.com


Takeaways

  • Boundaries are important in personal and professional life as they establish mutual alignment, respect, and open communication.
  • Setting healthy boundaries benefits relationships, mental health, and overall well-being.
  • Parents can teach children the importance of boundaries from an early age by helping them identify their values and establish limits.
  • Overcoming guilt and fear of setting boundaries involves self-reflection, understanding childhood wounds, and rebuilding trust with oneself.


Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

02:47 Defining Boundaries and Using Values

05:21 Signs and Benefits of Setting Boundaries

07:18 Setting Boundaries in Romantic Relationships

09:03 Setting Boundaries with Family Members

16:07 Teaching Children the Importance of Boundaries

22:15 Conclusion and How to Connect with Jan and Jillian

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