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Toxic Leadership: How to spot it and what to do about it

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EPISODE FORTY ONE

Toxic Leadership: How to Spot It and What to Do About It


SUMMARY


In this powerful episode of The Lonely Leader Podcast, James Rule dives deep into the toxic leadership behaviours that plague many workplaces today. From micromanagers to credit thieves and blame-shifters, James offers short, relatable examples of what toxic leadership looks like in action. He provides actionable strategies on how to confront these behaviours in others and potentially within ourselves. Whether you’re dealing with a toxic leader or want to ensure your own leadership doesn’t fall into these patterns, this episode is packed with valuable insights.


KEY TAKEAWAYS:


Toxic Leadership in Action: Micromanagement, blame-shifting, and credit theft.

How to Respond to Toxic Leadership: Practical tips on setting boundaries, documenting your work, finding allies, and protecting your mental health.

Creating Positive Leadership: Advice and encouragement for leaders to identify and correct toxic behaviours in their own management style.


ABOUT THE HOST 


James Rule is an experienced mentor, coach and thought leader who works with a range of clients from FTSE 100 companies, SME´s the NHS and wider public and not for profit sectors.


His twenty year career in elite sport initially as a professional rugby player but predominantly as a chief executive has given him an invaluable insight in managing the success, failures and pressures associated with leadership at the highest level.


As a high performance coach James specialises in enhancing resilience and leadership development. He is a passionate advocate of the notion that to find lasting fulfilment we need to take a holistic view of high performance and create it in both our professional roles and personal lives.  


EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT 


Episode 38 - Mastering the Art of Communication 


Episode 21 - Value Your People 


Episode 11 - Leadership Essentials: Delegation 


CONNECT & CONTACT 

Website www.thelonelyleader.co.uk

The Lonely Leader's LinkedIn

James' LinkedIn

Instagram

Email: hello@thelonelyleader.co.uk 


NEWSLETTER

Sign Up to The Leadership Accelerator Newsletter for advice, inspiration and ideas, you'll also receive James' Top 10 Tips for Combating Your Fear of Public Speaking.

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