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Invisible Drains: 7 Silent Killers of Leadership Energy

Ep. 73

Episode 73

Invisible Drains: 7 Silent Killers of Leadership Energy



SUMMARY

In this high-impact episode of The Lonely Leader Podcast, James Rule pulls back the curtain on the subtle habits and hidden dynamics that sap a leader’s energy. It’s not always the big crises that bring us down, sometimes it’s the quiet, unchallenged routines that drain us most. From decision fatigue and digital distractions to unresolved conflict and people pleasing, James identifies the 7 most common energy leaks and shows you exactly how to plug them. Featuring lessons from leaders Barack Obama, Warren Buffet and J.K. Rowling, this episode is a must listen for any leader looking to protect their energy and lead more intentionally.


KEY TAKEAWAYS

Learn how decision fatigue and digital distractions are impacting your performance

Understand how boundaries, conflict, and recovery play into your energy levels

Get inspired by real life leaders who’ve mastered energy protection

Actionable advice to help you build a more energised and sustainable leadership style


ABOUT THE HOST 

James is an experienced mentor, coach and thought leader who works with a range of clients from FTSE 100 companies, SME´s the NHS and wider public and not for profit sectors.

His twenty year career in elite sport initially as a professional rugby player but predominantly as a chief executive has given him an invaluable insight in managing the success, failures and pressures associated with leadership at the highest level.

As a high performance coach James specialises in enhancing resilience and leadership development. He is a passionate advocate of the notion that to find lasting fulfilment we need to take a holistic view of high performance and create it in both our professional roles and personal lives.  


EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT 

Episode 70 - Disconnect to reconnect: Why leaders need a digital detox

Episode 71 - Holiday Illness: A warning sign you cannot ignore

Episode 37 - Recovery: The missing link for high performance 

Episode 59 - How much are meetings costing your business


CONNECT & CONTACT 

www.thelonelyleader.co.uk

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James' LinkedIn

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hello@thelonelyleader.co.uk 

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Sign Up to The Leadership Accelerator Newsletter for advice, inspiration and ideas, you'll also receive James' Top 10 Tips for Combating Your Fear of Public Speaking.

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