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How Monique Realised Survival Mode Was Autistic Masking

Ep. 11
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In this meeting of The Late Diagnosis Club, Dr Angela Kingdon welcomes Monique Lindner — a late-identified Autistic woman whose life once revolved around relentless achievement, overwork, and endurance.


Monique was a high-performing systems thinker, corporate leader, and entrepreneur who learned early how to push through trauma, chronic pain, sleep deprivation, and sensory overload. What finally cracked the façade wasn’t a dramatic breakdown — it was a slow unravelling, followed by a single, unexpected question from her book editor that sent her down a ten-month path toward understanding her neurodivergence.


Together, Angela and Monique explore late identification, masking, Autistic burnout, trauma, friendship loss, unmasking, psychic pattern-matching, and what happens when you stop explaining yourself and start protecting your nervous system.


🪑 Attendees

Chair: Dr Angela Kingdon — Author, community-builder, and Autistic advocate

Guest: Monique Lindner — Late-identified Autistic writer, entrepreneur, and systems thinker

You: The Listener!


🗒️ Meeting Agenda

  • Opening remarks from the Chair
  • Member introduction: Monique’s pre-diagnosis life
  • Discussion: Burnout, trauma, masking, and loss after unmasking
  • Key learnings
  • Club announcements


🧾 Minutes from the Meeting


1️⃣ Opening Remarks

Angela introduces Monique as someone whose life looked successful on the outside — leadership roles, global travel, financial stability — while quietly exacting a devastating cost on her nervous system. What finally brought clarity wasn’t collapse alone, but permission to question why survival had become the baseline.


2️⃣ Member Introduction: Monique’s Story

Monique spent decades pushing through exhaustion, trauma, and sensory overload without understanding why it cost her so much. Her autism went unrecognised until the pandemic revealed how much relief she felt in solitude. A question from her book editor finally gave her language for her burnout, intuition, and need for boundaries.


3️⃣ Discussion Highlights

  • High achievement as masking: Leadership, overwork, and perfectionism hid severe sensory and emotional costs.
  • Late identification: A book editor’s observation opened a ten-month self-identification process.
  • Unmasking fallout: Friendships ended when Monique began asking for basic accommodations.
  • Autistic burnout: Multiple collapses following trauma, surgery, and prolonged stress.
  • Pattern-matching & intuition: Monique describes deep knowing, heightened perception, and intuitive clarity as Autistic strengths.
  • Boundaries as survival: Learning when to stop explaining and start protecting herself.


4️⃣ Key Learnings

  • Survival skills can look like success — until they stop working.
  • Unmasking may cost relationships, but it preserves health.
  • Asking for accommodations often reveals who was benefiting from your silence.
  • Pattern-matching and intuition are forms of Autistic intelligence.
  • Trusting yourself is a radical act after years of dismissal.


📌 Notice Board


📣 Club Announcements

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💬 Join our online meetups and community at latediagnosis.club.

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