The Labia Lounge

This week in The Labia Lounge we dive deep into the world of fascia, fascia decompression, and how these integral tissues affect our physical, emotional, and even sexual health. I welcome pioneer and Block Therapy founder Deanna Hansen onto the couch to discuss her journey, the science of fascia, and practical steps to unlock pain, trauma, and stagnation in the body.Key topics include why modern life is working against our bodies, how posture, trauma, and beauty standards impact pelvic health, and what you can do to restore alignment and vitality. Expect holistic wisdom, relatable personal stories, and actionable tools for self-healing.Key Highlights:Deanna's personal healing journey that led her to create Block Therapy and the importance of healthy fascia.What fascia actually is and why it’s so vital for not only posture and pain but also for blood flow, hormones, and pleasure.How modern lifestyle habits (like sitting, phone use, high heels/most shoes, and sucking in our bellies) are negatively impacting posture, pain, and sexual function.The link between fascia health, pelvic floor function, and pleasure—plus why blood flow is the unsung hero of sexual health.The overlooked importance of foot health and its effect on pelvic alignment and sexual vitality.Releasing adhesions and scar tissue:Deanna explains the difference between surface-level “fascia release” and true “fascia decompression” (as practiced in Block Therapy).Real-life transformation stories, including healing from trauma, injury recovery, improved libido, and more.Emotional and energetic healing: how trauma and anxiety are stored (and can be released) through the fascia with proper breath and decompression practices.Simple, at-home starter tips—including foot and pelvic floor exercises using household items like rolled towels.Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!Check out Deanna's work and Block Therapy here: www.blocktherapy.comhttps://www.youtube.com/@Fluidisometricshttps://www.instagram.com/blocktherapy/Begin supporting your fascia health today with this comprehensive 9-Part instructional video series. $9 ($47 value)https://blocktherapy.com/sampler-program/Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagrafOr at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

In this juicy episode of The Labia Lounge I chat with Dr. Maria Sophocles—a pioneer in women's healthcare, menopause management, and female sexual health—for a deep dive into the "bedroom gap," gender equality, and how societal, historical, and medical factors impact sex and intimacy.Dr. Maria coined the term "bedroom gap," now recognized by Oprah and taught in psychology classes, to describe the wide-ranging sexual discrepancies in relationships—including differences in expectations, abilities, satisfaction, and the impact of history and culture. Her new book, The Bedroom Gap, explores these issues and offers actionable advice to help women reclaim agency over their pleasure.Some of the Topics we Covered:The Bedroom Gap: What it means, why it’s more than just the "orgasm gap," and its roots in history, culture, and health care.Origins & Recognition: How the term gained traction and is now influencing psychology education.Women’s Sexual Agency: Empowerment, shame, and overcoming scripts focused on male pleasure.Healthcare System Disparities: How medications like Viagra shifted sexual norms and left women behind, and the slow fight for parity in sexual health treatments.Impact of Poor Sex Education: Funny and sad patient anecdotes highlight how misinformation and shame keep women from pleasure.Intimacy After Illness or Aging: Navigating sex when bodies and health change, including disability, menopause, and chronic conditions.Communication in Relationships: The importance of talking about sex, what blocks most couples, and tools for opening up.Redefining Sex: Moving beyond penetrative sex as the main event and exploring pleasure in many forms.Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!Follow maria's work and order her new book here:Official Website: mariasophoclesmd.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariasophoclesmd/Ted Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/maria_sophocles_what_happens_to_sex_in_midlife_a_look_at_the_bedroom_gapBook: https://www.amazon.com/Bedroom-Gap-Rewrite-Rules-Roles/dp/0306837404*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagrafOr at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

In this second installment of my little series with my mate Dan, we chat about how he went through early puberty at the age of 8, got teased about his pubes, tried his hand at being a sugar baby, and had a shady surprise at an air BnB with his partner. Among other hilarious stories!Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagrafOr at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

In this very special episode, I kick off a TMI mini-series with my fabulous friend Dan — prepare yourself for stories, laughs, and some seriously sex-positive real talk.Basically this episode comprises of two or three hilarious stories that you're not gonna wanna miss. I almost wet myself the first time I heard them, to be honest. From tales of his mortifying first boner to the unexpected adventures of dramatic and hilarious youthful sexual exploration (spoiler alert, he eats p*ssy for the first time with devastating results).This mini ep is just the start too. There's much more to come from Dan and I as we chew the fat, explore concepts and tell stories in the most Labia-Lounge-coded fashion ever! Enjoy!Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagrafOr at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

This week in the Lounge, I'm joined by renowned sex therapist, sexologist, and relationship counselor Cyndi Darnell, for a juicy chat about breaking free from traditional relationship scripts and reimagining intimacy, romance, and connection.We delve into alternative styles of relating—including relationship anarchy, polyamory, solo polyamory, chosen family, and platonic partnerships—exploring what happens when you decenter romance and start nurturing friendships, community, and other meaningful connections. Cyndi draws on decades of experience working with maturing populations questioning monogamy, uncovering why so many of us feel dissatisfied or curious about nontraditional ways of loving and living.You’ll hear honest reflections on the learnt scripts we carry around sex, relationships, and gender roles, and what it takes to unlearn them in order to build more rewarding intimate lives. The conversation also covers the realities of relational skills, emotional labor, and the profound impact of relational integrity in every kind of relationship—not just the romantic ones.Plus, we share personal stories about friendship, chosen family, and the beauty (and challenge) of lifting your gaze from “the one” to the many who hold you.If you’ve ever felt “off-script” in love, wondered about non-monogamy, or simply want to nourish your friendships and show up more fully in your relationships, this is an episode you don’t want to miss.Highlights:Why traditional heteronormative models of relationships aren’t working for manyThe skills we need to create sustaining, nourishing connections—romantic or notHow economic and social change is driving the rise of chosen families and community-based intimacyFriendship as a nourishing, romantic, and valid centerpiece in lifeReal talk about commitment, relational integrity, and emotional regulation beyond old-school paradigmsListen and be inspired to rethink, revitalise, and reclaim connection, intimacy, and love—all on your own terms!Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagrafOr at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

In this juicy episode of The Labia Lounge, I'm joined by the fabulous Genevieve LeJeune, founder of Skirt Club—a global private members’ club for bi-curious and bisexual women.Genevieve shares the origin story of Skirt Club, talking about the gaps she noticed in spaces for women wanting to connect outside of the male gaze, and how she’s intentionally created safe, empowering, and pleasure-focused events now held in over 36 cities worldwide. From first-party nerves and behind the scenes insights, to squirt-circle cleanups and overcoming shame around sexual desire and orientation, we cover some fun stuff!You’ll hear candid stories about what really goes down at these infamous femme parties, why so many women seek sensual connection with other women (even while partnered with men!), how same-sex spaces differ energetically, and why sexual self-knowledge is deeply linked to personal power in and out of the bedroom.Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!Check out Genevieve's work and follow Skirt Club's latest offerings and events here: Skirtclub.co.ukMake sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagrafOr at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink