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The Permission You're Waiting For Doesn't Exist

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Most of us are waiting for someone to tell us we're ready. This week, Jake and Damian argue that moment never comes, and that the people we admire most simply stopped waiting.


You'll hear from George Russell on the email to Toto Wolff that started his Mercedes journey, Robin Sharma on why it pays to be "a bit of a pirate", Alain de Botton on why the world is built by humans, not gods, and Adam Grant on the feedback that nearly made him quit public speaking. Francis Ngannou, Shane Parrish and Tom Kerridge unpack what it really means to take full ownership of your life, and Holly Tucker explains why there's never a perfect time to start.


Along the way, Damian brings in the research on self-efficacy, why we underestimate how willing people are to help us, and why amateurs wait for inspiration while professionals just get on with it. Then Dame Amanda Blanc complicates everything: sometimes, all it takes is someone else believing in you first.


Listen to the full episodes:

George Russell https://pod.fo/e/1527c9

Robin Sharma https://pod.fo/e/23512b

Alain de Botton https://pod.fo/e/1f5db0

Adam Grant https://pod.fo/e/1546d4

Francis Ngannou https://pod.fo/e/21a419

Shane Parrish https://pod.fo/e/1ff000

Tom Kerridge https://pod.fo/e/22356e

Holly Tucker https://pod.fo/e/1943f

Dame Amanda Blanc https://pod.fo/e/1419c7


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