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Mark Manson on why we should start saying no - Handpicked
Returning to the episode with author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, Mark Manson, Jake reflects on the lessons he still thinks about daily.
Mark suggested parents should not be telling their children they can do anything, as it may set them up for a fall in the future. Telling them they’re going to be brilliant will ensure they don’t build their resilience muscle. Jake shares with Damian how after this episode he now talks to his children differently.
They also reflect on why comparison is killer and Mark’s experience writing Will Smith’s book. And they discuss how saying no makes you a more attractive prospect.
Listen to the full episode with Mark: https://pod.fo/e/15bfe7
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