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4 Questions You Need To Ask Yourself

The questions we ask ourselves can shape the direction of our lives. In this episode, Jake and Damian reflect on four powerful questions that can help guide you toward a more purposeful and connected life, featuring insights from guests like Dr. Pippa Grange, Aitch, Shaun Wane, and Dr. Rangan Chatterjee.


They dive into the importance of coherence and meaning, exploring how understanding your story and the impact of your actions can help you find clarity. They also discuss the need for direction and belonging, with inspiring stories that highlight how resilience and connection shape who we are.


Listen as Jake and Damian break down these life-changing questions, showing how small shifts in mindset and deeper connections can lead to a more fulfilled and high performing life.


Listen to the episodes mentioned:

Dr. Pippa Grange: https://pod.fo/e/10bc10

Aitch: https://pod.fo/e/27ae56

Shaun Wane: https://pod.fo/e/259c4

Dr. Rangan Chatterjee: https://pod.fo/e/29cbd7     

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