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You’re Not Stuck Because of a Lack of Motivation Or Strategy (It’s Your Nervous System Keeping You “Safe”)

Ep. 43

Have you ever found yourself procrastinating on the very things that would grow your business—posting online, raising your prices, hiring a team, or launching a new offer—and then wondered, “What’s wrong with me?” In this compassionate and practical episode, I reveal the real reason you’re stuck—and it’s not because there’s anything wrong. It’s because your nervous system is resisting growth in order to keep you “safe.” It’s time for a mindset deep dive! 


Together, we explore how nervous system dysregulation—not a lack of motivation or strategy—is often the true barrier to scaling your business. I’ll walk you through exactly how to identify nervous system-based resistance, how it’s rooted in childhood experiences and subconscious programming, and how to rewire your body and beliefs so you can finally expand into the business and life you crave. 


Whether you’re undercharging, stuck in perfectionism, avoiding visibility, or afraid of investing in the next level, this episode will show you how to gently but powerfully release the brake so you can grow with ease. You’ve got this!


Your Next Step:

If you know you’re meant for more—but your body is resisting growth—it’s time to address what’s under the surface. Join me for my free Masterclass next week called The Mindset Intensive (link below) to hear more and start to transform. 

💻 Masterclass Registration: https://boldheart.com/masterclass


Better yet, if you know you want to work with me directly to address this stuckness once and for all, go all in and dive into my 3-Day Mindset Deep Dive, happening soon. We’ll rewire your subconscious, release resistance, and unlock the next level of success in your business and life.

💻 Details + Tickets: https://boldheart.com/mindset


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