The ENM DNM

In this episode, we step into one of the more complicated spaces sitting alongside ethical non-monogamy.We’re joined by Genevieve, founder of Skirt Club, to talk about what the community is, who it is for, and why so many women find themselves drawn to it while still not always seeing it as non-monogamy.From there, the conversation opens out into something much bigger: bisexuality, curiosity, marriage, secrecy, permission, exclusivity, and the blurred line between sexual exploration and relationship structure.We talk about the women who come to these spaces, what they are often looking for, and why experiences with other women can be understood very differently from other forms of non-monogamy, even when the overlap is clearly there.We also get into the harder questions around safety, consent, trauma, inclusion, and the tension that can exist when a space is trying to hold multiple realities at once.This episode is about women-only spaces, sexual identity, community, and the messy grey areas that appear when desire, liberation, and ENM don’t fit neatly into the same box.

In this episode, we do something a little different.We listen to Lily Allen’s West End Girl track by track and react to it in real time, using our own experiences in ethical non-monogamy as the lens for the conversation.As the album unfolds, so does a bigger discussion about heartbreak, agreements, jealousy, attachment, communication, and the messy space between what people say they want and what actually happens in practice.Rather than trying to give definitive answers, we let the songs lead us. Some moments are funny, some are uncomfortable, and some hit surprisingly hard.What follows is a raw conversation about love, betrayal, power, desire, and the difficult questions that can sit underneath non-monogamous relationships when things stop feeling clear.This episode is part album reaction, part relationship analysis, and part honest reflection on what can happen when intimacy, hurt, and uncertainty all collide.

In Part 2 of Leonie’s story, the conversation moves from background into becoming.We explore what happened after the rules started to loosen: the slow unfurling of sexuality, the complexity of identity, and the often messy gap between what non-monogamy is supposed to look like and what it actually feels like to live it.Leonie speaks openly about moving from a conservative faith background into a much broader world of intimacy, queerness, friendship and connection.We talk about the difference between attraction and compatibility, the challenge of unlearning old conditioning, the reality of dating in ENM spaces, and how non-monogamy can open up not just relationships, but entirely new ways of understanding yourself.This episode is about fluidity, directness, friendship, desire, and the ongoing process of working out what connection really means when you no longer fit inside the old rules. 

From Conservative Faith to Non-Monogamy: Leonie’s Story Part 1In Part 1 of Leonie’s story, we go right back to the beginning. Leonie reflects on her childhood, her deep sense of spirituality, and the role conservative faith played in shaping how she saw herself, community, belonging and the world around her.Together, we unpack the difference between genuine spiritual connection and organised religion, the comfort and healing that faith can offer, and the ways control, conformity and social expectations can quietly shape a person’s life. Leonie speaks openly about what it was like to move through rigid religious spaces, the pressure to be “good”, and the turning points that led her to question the path she had been given.This episode is a conversation about spirituality, identity, community, freedom, and what happens when you begin stepping off the track that was laid out for you.Loved the episode? Want to help keep The ENM DNM alive, growing and making more gorgeous chaos?you can support the podcast with a one-off or ongoing donation here: Ko-fi.comYour support helps us make the podcast and also contributes to our broader mission of funding free and subsidised therapy for people who may not otherwise be able to access it.Come say hi or follow along:InstagramTiktokEmail us!Want to book a counselling session with Adam?Get in touch here: HalaxyWe’re also keen to hear from potential collaborators, sponsors, guests and partners.Please note: this podcast is for conversation, reflection and shared experience. It is not a replacement for therapy, medical advice or crisis support.

It’s been a while, but WE ARE BACK!!The ENM DNM looks a little different now. It’s just the two of us, Adam and Leonie, which brings a new format, a new energy, and a bit more space to let the conversation go where it naturally wants to.In this episode, we reintroduce ourselves, reflect on what’s changed since the last run of episodes, and talk about what this next chapter of the podcast is going to look like.We unpack why we’re doing this, what kind of conversations we want to have, and why this podcast has never been about pretending to be experts or handing out gold stars for “doing ENM right”.From here on, this podcast is about honest conversations, lived experience, the messy bits, the funny bits, and creating a space where people can feel a little more seen in the realities of non-monogamy.Loved the episode? Want to help keep The ENM DNM alive, growing and making more gorgeous chaos?ou can support the podcast with a one-off or ongoing donation here: Ko-fi.comYour support helps us make the podcast and also contributes to our broader mission of funding free and subsidised therapy for people who may not otherwise be able to access it.Come say hi or follow along:InstagramTiktokEmail us!Want to book a counselling session with Adam?Get in touch here: HalaxyWe’re also keen to hear from potential collaborators, sponsors, guests and partners.Please note: this podcast is for conversation, reflection and shared experience. It is not a replacement for therapy, medical advice or crisis support.

Episode 6: The Good, The Bad, and The Fugly From cute friend dates to chaotic sex parties, we’re ending Season 1 with our wildest, weirdest, and most heartfelt dating stories. In this final episode of the season, we swap stories from the frontlines of dating while ethically non-monogamous — the good, the bad, and the downright fugly. We reflect on what counts as a date in ENM, how online dating compares to meeting people in community, and the beautiful chaos of navigating sex parties, group dynamics, and slow-burn connections. There’s vulnerability, laughter, and a lot of honest talk about what it’s really like to date, connect, and grow while living non-monogamously. What We Talk About:Dating while polyamorous and ethically non-monogamousWhy some of the best dates are platonicOnline dating red flags and bios that make us swipe awayFirst-time sex party nerves (and snacks)The pressure (or not) at ENM social eventsHow community-based connections feel safer and more authenticOne piece of advice we’d give to anyone starting out in ENMMentioned in This Episode:ko-fi.com/enmdnm – Support the pod and help fund free therapy and support groupsThe E&M DNM Discord – connect, learn, and share in a supportive space (access via Ko-Fi)Love what you hear?Follow, review, and support the pod over on Ko-fi — every little bit helps us fund free and subsidised therapy and support groups for ENM folks.Join our Discord to connect with other non-monogamous, queer, and curious humans from all walks of life.And stay tuned — we’ll be back with Season 2 soon. Thanks for joining us in this honest conversation about ethical non-monogamy, queer identity, dating, friendship, and community. Loved the episode? Want to help keep The ENM DNM alive, growing and making more gorgeous chaos?ou can support the podcast with a one-off or ongoing donation here: Ko-fi.comYour support helps us make the podcast and also contributes to our broader mission of funding free and subsidised therapy for people who may not otherwise be able to access it.Come say hi or follow along:InstagramTiktokEmail us!Want to book a counselling session with Adam?Get in touch here: HalaxyWe’re also keen to hear from potential collaborators, sponsors, guests and partners.Please note: this podcast is for conversation, reflection and shared experience. It is not a replacement for therapy, medical advice or crisis support.