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The Diary of a Depressed Black Woman

Dear Diary, I'm so tired of Christians shaming single folk

Season 1, Ep. 18

YOUR GIRL IS RANTING TODAY!!


In this special Valentine's Day episode, I start a reflection on the Christian community's obsession with marriage. I will be challenging the narrative and advocating for a paradigm shift towards prioritizing individual fulfillment and spiritual growth.


I will be discussing the detrimental effects of this mindset on singles and the wider community. Drawing from personal experiences and cultural observations, I highlight the nuanced complexities surrounding marriage expectations and the damaging consequences of rushing into relationships for the sake of societal norms.


Tune into my heartfelt conversation as I invite you, my listeners, to reflect on your own beliefs and experiences. Whether single or partnered, Christian or non-Christian, this episode offers encouragement for all who seek to redefine the meaning of love, purpose, and fulfillment in their lives.


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