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Rethinking Perfectionism with Katherine Morgan Schafler

Season 1, Ep. 17

Did you know that there are different types of perfectionists each with their own distinct perfectionistic ideals and specific personality assets and liabilities? In today’s episode of The Change Lab, psychotherapist and author, Katherine Morgan Schafler, gives us a new and nuanced perspective on perfectionism. Join Katherine and Sasha as they discuss Katherine’s groundbreaking and original book, The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control: A Path to Peace and Power.


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To learn more about Katherine Morgan Schafler and her book, head to her website www.perfectionistsguide.com.


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