The Break Up Break Down

Your wedding is the one day you shouldn't look around and wonder where your besties are- they should be right beside you. When this week's interviewee got a call from one of her bridesmaids that she couldn't be in the wedding, she was completely blindsided. How did a friendship that spanned over years come to an end right before the most important days of her life? We'll find out when we break down this week's break up. -This week we're raising awareness for Jubilee Women's Center in Seattle: https://jwcenter.org/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(03:47): How they met/their early years-(11:47): How the bridal party complicated the friendship-(17:26): Reflecting on the friendship-(21:56): Advice-(26:20): Teaser-

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[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS]-When she joined us on S5E10, she told us her daughter and husband had an affair. After finding out that her grandson was her husbands biological child, she knew she had to divorce him, but she wasn't ready. What has happened since the interview? We'll find out when we break down this week's break up. -Listen to part one [S5E10] here: https://shows.acast.com/the-break-up-break-down/episodes/6661a5d5a44e5000113fcf8a-This week we're raising awareness for Women Against Abuse in Philly: https://www.womenagainstabuse.org/services-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(06:27): What has happened since the interview 9 months ago?-(16:00): Why did they have the affair?-(17:17): Could she and her daughter ever reconcile?-(19:50): Her relationship with her grandson-(21:33): Looking to the future-(25:47): Reflecting/advice-(27:28): Teaser-[CW: Incest]

[SCROLL FOR CW] -Have you ever felt manipulated by your partner? Did you try to break up with them, but they kept luring you back in? Abby brings on LMSW Vernique Esther to talk about how to recognize manipulation, set boundaries, and leave if necessary. -Check out Vernique Esther's:-Website: https://www.verniqueesther.com/-The Wholeness Academy: https://www.thewholenessacademy.com/-Books: https://www.verniqueesther.com/shop-Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Introducing Vernique-(00:56): How do I know I'm getting manipulated?-(04:06): Why do people manipulate?-(07:07): Why do I feel bad for setting up boundaries?-(09:18): How do I handle religious manipulation?-(12:10): What if my partner threatens me w/ self-harm to keep us from breaking up?-(14:04): How do I leave a manipulative relationship?-(15:00): Can you ever work through manipulation?-(18:24): How to set boundaries in a relationship with someone who has manipulative tendencies?-(20:55): Why do I want to go back to someone who manipulated me?-(23:08): How do I convince myself I deserve better?-[CW: This episode briefly discusses: self-harm/suicide, domestic violence, religious trauma]

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Relationship expert Kate Mansfield joins Abby in London to explain how men communicate differently than women do in relationships.-Kate Mansfield: https://katemansfield.com/-LISTEN TO THE LIVE BUBD PODCAST EVENT: https://paidbreakdownbonus.vhx.tv/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9

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[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS]-First she caught her ex-husband with her best friend in season 3, now she says her latest ex was living a double [read: triple?!] life. How did a birth certificate lead to her finding the literal paper trail...and why did she file for a restraining order against her ex? We'll find out when we break down this week's break up.-This week we're raising awareness for NWAWS in Fayetteville, AR: https://nwaws.org/-Replay her first episode, S3E10: https://shows.acast.com/the-break-up-break-down/episodes/6661a5d6a44e5000113fcfed-Restraining Order Basics: https://www.findlaw.com/legalblogs/law-and-life/restraining-order-basics/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(06:27): How they met-(11:29): Red flags-(19:53): When his son's mom complicated things-(25:23): Looking into the overlapping relationships-(34:35): Getting the temporary restraining order-(41:16): Healing from her relationship(s)-(44:56): Reflecting/Advice-(49:25): Teaser-[CW: Intimate Partner Violence]