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When she said her ex got on the no-fly list.... - S6E14

Season 6, Ep. 14

When you've been with the same person since you were teens, it's hard to notice when someone isn't the same person as when you met them. This week's interviewee said she was fighting to stay in a relationship, but couldn't ignore the red flags once the FBI got involved. We'll find out what happens when we break down this week's break up.

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This week we're raising awareness for WINGS in Chicago: https://wingsprogram.com/

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LISTEN TO THE LIVE BUBD PODCAST EVENT: https://paidbreakdownbonus.vhx.tv/

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Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(07:17): How they met

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(14:54): The red flags

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(18:08): Learning about 'The Proud Boys'

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(27:23): Struggling to decide to leave

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(36:50): The final straw

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(40:00): Reflecting/Advice

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(50:50): Teaser

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CW: Alcoholism, religious trauma, suicidal ideation, manic episode

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