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Thank You Saturn

Thank You Saturn - Topher Taylor

Season 1, Ep. 4

Trigger warning: Mild suicide reference. NSFW.

September means back to Saturn School & first on the roll call is sex educator and adult toy consultant Topher Taylor, discussing his Saturn Return with the rare vulnerablity that benefitted his life (and even career), teen loneliness, internalised homophobia, the infamous Channel 4 Love in Lockdown mini doc that racked up 4.3 million views (and with it, some despicable comments paired with curious DMs) and becoming a better person despite the trolls.

Show Notes

Channel 4 Love in Lockdown mini doc -

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Instagram: @tophertaylor

Twitter: @iamtophertaylor

Link to Aliza Einhorn's Little Book of Saturn

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