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Overcoming Vaginismus & Choosing Faith Over Religion With Tito The Writer- EP5 S3

Season 3, Ep. 5

They say the third time is the charm but the fifth episode of Tea With Tay featuring author and Jesus' brand influencer, Titoluwa Sam-Oladapo aka Tito the Writer packs a pleasantly unexpected punch you wouldn't see coming as it shatters many tables that Christians and several churchgoers lay on.


An Ibadan-born and bred Christian, Tito had lived all her life as a devout churchgoer and minister in the church but didn't cultivate a relationship with God till 2021 after battling and overcoming Vaginismus. Tito not only opens up on dealing with that condition, but shares the trauma that led to it-- 3 series of sexual assault at age 6, 13 and 15. We also get a robust and demystifying definition that shows the difference between religion and faith, with Tito taking a stance for faith-led Christianity and the need for Christians to allot themselves and others grace instead of condemnation. Equally importantly, Tito attempts to shatter the stigma around vaginismus which while being a prevalent condition among 1 out of 4 women remains underdiagnosed due to stigma and stigmatisation, by sharing her experience of living with and overcoming it.


Buckle up and sit tight for a whirlwind ride that touches richly on the core of Christianity; faith versus the art of it-- religion all while shattering sexual stigma in the gospel and the society.



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