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To prepare for my mum's gay wedding, I talked to her about sexuality for the first time

Season 4, Ep. 1

To prepare for my mum's gay wedding, I talked to her about sexuality for the first time


Journalist Eve Hartley sits down with her mum, ahead of her same-sex wedding, to discuss for the first time what her mum went through when she came out while Eve was only a few years old.


Eve reflects on how her journey to understanding sexuality was so different to her mums. And the reason for that is all thanks to her Mum.


Before celebrating her wedding, Eve sits down to tell her mum, that she is her ultimate queer icon.

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