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Coping with the Death of a Child

This episode is in response to a request from someone whose family has been bereaved by the death of a child.

So I reached out to Dr. Martha Deiros Collado, a Clinical Psychologist who specialises in working with children and families, and who spent over a decade working with and developing services for children with life limiting and life shortening conditions.

I am enormously grateful to Martha for her support with this episode in which she covers issues like:

  • Why the language you use around death is important
  • The value of creating rituals
  • How to manage important dates like birthdays after the death of a child
  • What to say and not say to parents after their child has died

We hope this will be a helpful resource for bereaved parents, family members and people around the family.

Support & Resources

Sue Ryder

Winston’s Wish – support for children who are grieving -the loss of a sibling or the loss of a parent

Child Bereavement UK

Lullaby Trust



Gingerbread – Support for single parents including those who are bereaved

Child Death Helpline – helpline operated by a dedicated team of volunteers who are all bereaved parents


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