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42: Grand gestures and expensive gifts with Dr Jane Major

Season 4, Ep. 42

When a gift seems very high cost compared to the income or wealth of the giver or the receiver, it can cause feelings other than gratitude. Questions arise about motives and expectations. Can they afford it and what do they want in return? And can I afford that? Some people give for the pleasure of giving, but some give to be recognised, to hide feelings of inadequacy or to place the receiver in their debt.

What can we do to make gift giving a pleasurable experience all round? And how can we react when gift giving goes wrong?

With Dr Jane Major, clinical psychologist and relationship therapist from The Room Between therapy practice.


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