Spirals

Trying to heal from trauma can be challenging and there are a variety of therapies out there.Tonje is ready (or not?) to try a new therapy form called Safe and Sound Protocol. It has not been tested in Norway before, but has very promising results according to Unyte. Tore Kierulf Næss is a medical doctor and a somatic therapist and they met randomly at an art exhibition. Their project shares raw and honest emotions mixed with scientific knowledge and humor.Join them as they embark on this new and groundbreaking therapy journey together demystifying this listening therapy form, while sharing their experience.Hopefully this makes it easier for others to start their own healing journey.“If you want to improve the world, start by making people feel safer.”– Dr. Stephen PorgesLearn more about the Safe & Sound Protocol here: https://integratedlistening.com/products/ssp-safe-sound-protocol/After the episode you can hear the song "I wonder", a song from Unicorns album "You Are".Learn more and listen to Unicorn here: www.unicorn.noVisit www.unicornvoice.com

In this heartfelt follow-up, Tonje and her brother Frode continue their journey, diving deeper into their shared history with courage and compassion.They kick off the episode with a profound discussion about pedophiles and the possibility of rehabilitation. Tonje's acknowledgment of her condescending behavior, rooted in a sense of superiority, frustrates Frode. They explore the delicate balance between offering support and respecting boundaries.Together, they debunk the myth of self-blame, stressing the importance of setting clear boundaries in cases of sexual abuse. They reclaim their voices, empowering themselves in the process.Their conversation turns critical as they address the systemic barriers survivors face, questioning why abuse centers lack funding. They urge listeners to advocate for societal change and support for survivors.Tonje and Frode grapple with authenticity and vulnerability, weighing the risks and rewards of sharing their truth. They reflect on the timing of healing and acknowledge the complexities of personal growth.Join Tonje and Frode on this transformative journey as they navigate trauma, shame, and healing, seeking understanding and wholeness within their family.After the episode you can hear the song "Stole my dreams", a demo Tonje made almost 25 years ago.Learn more and listen to Unicorn here: www.unicorn.noVisit www.unicornvoice.com

In the first part of this candid two-part episode, host Tonje invites her brother Frode to join her for a heartfelt conversation about their childhood. Together, they explore the complexities of growing up in a family with violence, abuse and mental health issues.They start by reflecting on whether their memories of childhood are the same, sharing personal anecdotes and differing perspectives.Tonje and Frode delve into the dynamics of their family, discussing their own parenting style and the influence of their parents and grandparent's difficult past. They talk openly about the challenges they faced and the impact it had on their upbringing. With poignant honesty, Frode shares his natural response of anger, prompting a deeper exploration of the healing process within their family dynamic. Together, they offer practical insights and steps towards fostering healing and reconciliation.As they reminisce about their father's, today, very inappropriate Christmas cards and discuss the possibility of forgiveness, the conversation takes a serious turn.Frode's shares his emotional journey in coming to terms with the feelings of shame around Tonje's revelation of being sexually abused by their father. As they confront the pervasive shame associated with sexual abuse, Tonje and Frode courageously address the stigma that often surrounds survivors and their loved ones. They grapple with the weight of societal judgment, challenging the damaging assumption that Frode might also be an abuser by association.They grapple with difficult questions about their family history, including the distinction between a pedophile and a molester, and whether their father fit into either category.Join Tonje and Frode as they engage in a raw and honest dialogue about their shared past, seeking understanding and closure along the way. Stay tuned for Part 2, where they continue their exploration.After the episode you can hear the song “12 Days” from Tonje's newly released album “You Are”, with Unicorn.Learn more and listen to Unicorn here: www.unicorn.noVisit www.unicornvoice.com

Hurt people, hurt people.When we are in a position to heal, can we break the cycle of intergenerational trauma? Can you avoid hurting others when you have not started your own healing journey? If we talk to the people closest to us, maybe we can turn the cycle into a spiral. Unavoidably some of our trauma will bleed onto others, but by sharing how they are not to blame maybe their own healing can start, preventing a new cycle of pain and confusion.