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17. Women's Safety, Travel, and Understanding Men with Alison Armstrong
In this episode, I have an insightful conversation with Alison Armstrong about women's safety as it relates to travel, and how understanding men can impact this.
Alison Armstrong’s exploration of human behavior began in 1991, with her decision to study men: “To find out how I was bringing out the worst in them. And hopefully, how to bring out the best.” Her success in understanding men naturally led to studying women’s behavior and making vital connections between the two.
As her work evolved over decades, Alison now illuminates human characteristics that precede and express themselves regardless of gender, age, and upbringing. She distinguishes normal human instincts that compel both men and women to behave in ways that contradict and undermine our own purposes, goals, values, needs, and relationships.
Besides fulfilling the need to understand “Why” people behave as they do, Alison offers practical,partnership-based alternatives. Through her seminars, books, online programs, and media contributions, she has been giving millions of people access to more fulfilling lives, loving relationships, stronger families andproductive organizations.
Alison is a sought-after speaker and thought leader amongst people who desire to live empowered lives. Her philosophy and approach are referenced and taught by other authors, speakers, business consultants, and therapists.
Timestamps:
5:10 What if men are responding to women?
6:56 Connection related to safety and travel
8:35 Emasculating men
14:13 What happens when it stops
16:20 Teaching women and writing The Queen's Code
23:15 Distinguishing safety between men and women
27:27 Safety through connectivity vs. productivity
31:31 Ways to act while traveling
33:44 Men don't realize their strength
36:10 Survival and hormones
38:32 Our part in safety
40:02 Receptivity, holding boundaries, and flight-fight-freeze responses
44:56 Testerone vs. Estrogen and how it affects the brain
48:50 Spectrum of diffused awareness and single-focused
52:00 Reframing machismo
54:35 Beware of chemistry
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Soul Wanderer is a podcast for mindful women of color who want to travel deeper, not just farther. Each episode blends solo travel inspiration, destination storytelling, and honest conversations about what it means to move through the world with purpose and intention.
From Japan to Portugal, Mexico to beyond, Soul Wanderer centers what mindful, conscious travel looks like for women of color navigating the world on their own terms.
New episodes every two weeks. Come wander.
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