Share

cover art for UnPickled - Prepare to be Alcohol-Free - with Jean McCarthy (Part 2)

Sober Awkward

UnPickled - Prepare to be Alcohol-Free - with Jean McCarthy (Part 2)

Season 14, Ep. 4

Yes, the World Cup is on, everyone is drinking to celebrate and commiserate, so welcome to your safe little corner of the internet, where Vic promises to mention the legend Jude Bellingham only once… and then get back to what really matters, talking about sobriety and not trying to explain the offside rule.


So apart from the Spain win, the other news is....You don’t have to wait until Day One to start building an alcohol-free life.


In part two of my conversation with Jean McCarthy, author of UnPickled and creator of the pioneering sobriety podcast The Bubble Hour, we explore what comes next once you’ve decided alcohol might not be serving you anymore.


How do you know what kind of support is right for you? Is there a place between the pub and AA? Should you consider therapy, a community, a treatment centre, or something completely different? Jean shares the wisdom she’s gathered from years of helping thousands of people find their own path to sobriety.


Together we talk about finding the support that fits you, learning to care for yourself with compassion, and beginning to imagine a future where alcohol no longer takes centre stage.


Whether you’re sober curious, preparing for your first alcohol-free day, or simply wondering what’s possible, this episode is full of reassurance, practical ideas and hope.


Put the kettle on and prepare to be UnPickled.


💛 Resources & Links

Follow and Find out more about Jean head to @jeanmccarthy_writes

Or buy her book UnPickled Prepare to be Alcohol-Free: Insights and Tips to Ease the Transition - here

https://amzn.asia/d/02iVCTtz


📘 Victoria’s memoir – A Thousand Wasted Sundays

A brutally honest and hilarious look at motherhood, anxiety, and ditching the booze.

👉 https://amzn.asia/d/0aZ69GpK


Vic's book 'Mumming - A year of Trying (and Failing) to be a better parent - https://amzn.asia/d/0bUJTS2W


🎧 Listen to more Sober Awkward episodes

👉 www.soberawkward.com


🫖 Join The Cuppa Community

Our private, supportive online space for sober folk

👉 www.cuppa.community


📘 Get the Sober Awkward Guide

Our downloadable toolkit for ditching booze the awkward way.

👉 The Sober Awkward Guide


📱 Follow us for daily sober fun:

Instagram: @soberawkward

TikTok: @soberawkward

Facebook: Sober Awkward Community for Women

More episodes

View all episodes

  • Introducing MAMA: Motherhood, Alcohol, Mental Health and Anxiety

    13:17|
    Listen to the Mama podcast on Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/0341yjbBRIxVgWibnSR92D?si=e4a1b9094a3a40aaApple - https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/introducing-mama-motherhood-alcohol-mental-health-and/id6798043028?i=1000779960427So… what is MAMA?If you’ve ever found yourself pouring a glass of wine before you’ve even finished unpacking the school bags, if you’ve joked about Wine O’Clock while secretly wondering why your anxiety feels worse the next day, or if you’ve started asking yourself whether alcohol has quietly become part of your parenting journey, then you’ve found the right podcast.MAMA stands for Motherhood, Alcohol, Mental Health and Anxiety. It’s an honest six part podcast series hosted by Victoria Vanstone, mum of three, author and host of the award-winning Sober Awkward podcast.This teaser episode is a little introduction to why MAMA exists and why these conversations matter so much.The full series launches next week alongside the Healthy Mum Healthy Bub program. The two have been designed to work together, giving you both practical support and honest conversation as you explore your own relationship with alcohol. You can work through the Healthy Mum Healthy Bub program while listening to each episode of MAMA, or simply enjoy the podcast on its own. However you choose to listen, you’ll find the same message running through both. You are not alone, you are not broken, and there are other ways to cope.Created in collaboration with the Healthy Mum Healthy Bub team and researchers from the University of Sydney, and funded by the Medical Research Future Fund, MAMA brings together something really powerful, lived experience and evidence based research. You’ll hear real stories, practical tools, the latest science around alcohol, anxiety and motherhood, and plenty of laughs along the way.This isn’t a podcast that tells you what to do. There are no labels, no judgement and no lectures. Instead, it’s an invitation to get curious. To ask yourself whether alcohol is helping you become the mum, partner and person you want to be. To understand why alcohol can feel so closely tied to motherhood, and to discover that there might be another way.Whether you’re sober curious, trying to cut back, questioning your drinking, or simply interested in understanding the connection between motherhood, mental health and alcohol, MAMA is here to walk alongside you, one conversation at a time.The teaser is here now, and the full six episode series, along with the Healthy Mum Healthy Bub program, launches next week. Pop the kettle on, settle in, and let’s start this conversation together.@thisismamapodResources & LinksAbout MAMAMAMA (Motherhood. Alcohol. Mental Health. Anxiety.) is a special podcast series from Sober Awkward, created to complement the Healthy Mum Healthy Bub program.Developed in partnership with researchers from The University of Sydney and supported by funding from the Medical Research Future Fund (MRFF), MAMA aims to help mums feel less alone, more informed and better supported as they navigate the challenges of early motherhood.If you’re feeling overwhelmed, struggling with anxiety, or questioning the role alcohol plays in your life, you’re in the right place.Healthy Mum Healthy Bubhealthymumhealthybub.org.auhttps://www.sydney.edu.au/matilda-centreSober AwkwardPodcast, books, courses, community, events and supportsoberawkward.comVictoria’s BooksMumming - A Year of Trying (and Failing) to be a Better Parent - https://amzn.asia/d/08E0CLySA Thousand Wasted Sundays - https://amzn.asia/d/0eK3l8BdSober Awkward RetreatsJoin Victoria and the Sober Awkward community for alcohol-free retreats, workshops and unforgettable adventures in Australia and overseas.Find out more at:soberawkward.com
  • 7. Dave Hughes on Quitting Young and Living in the Now

    35:53||Season 14, Ep. 7
    Hughesy!This was meant to be a chat about booze… but somehow Vic ended up being spiritually mentored by this legendary Aussie larrikin!Dave Hughes gave up alcohol at just 21 years old, after years of binge drinking, blackouts and waking up with no idea how he had got home. He had watched alcohol control his dad’s life, and one Christmas Eve in 1992, he realised he didn’t want it controlling his future too.Nearly 34 years later, Hughesy joins Vic to talk about growing up in Australia’s deeply ingrained drinking culture, why accepting that he would never drink again made sobriety easier, and how giving up the grog gave him the stability and confidence to begin his comedy career.They also chat about coping with criticism, managing the addictive buzz of applause, and why getting sober dosnt always have to be about getting help - it can just be a really smart choice!But this conversation becomes about much more than booze. Dave shares what getting sacked from radio taught him about ego, why grudges disappear when you stay present, and how real freedom comes from remembering that most of the things we worry about do not matter nearly as much as we think they do.Can giving up alcohol teach you how to stop living in the past, worrying about the future and finally relax into the life happening right now?Listen to find out! - (but if you don't have time the answer is yes!)@dhughesyGo and see Dave in his Australia stand up tour - https://davehughes.com.au/📘 Victoria’s memoir – A Thousand Wasted SundaysA brutally honest and hilarious look at motherhood, anxiety, and ditching the booze.👉 https://amzn.asia/d/0aZ69GpKVic's book 'Mumming - A year of Trying (and Failing) to be a better parent - https://amzn.asia/d/0bUJTS2W🎧 Listen to more Sober Awkward episodes👉 www.soberawkward.com🫖 Join The Cuppa CommunityOur private, supportive online space for sober folk👉 www.cuppa.community📘 Get the Sober Awkward GuideOur downloadable toolkit for ditching booze the awkward way.👉 The Sober Awkward Guide📱 Follow us for daily sober fun:Instagram: @soberawkwardTikTok: @soberawkwardFacebook: Sober Awkward Community for Women
  • The Share Shed: Writing Competition Entries

    10:06|
    The Share Shed – Sober Awkward Writing Competition Specials - Three Years Clear By Amy GEvery Thursday, we’re handing the story telling over to you.Over the next few months, Vic will be reading some of the incredible entries from this year’s Sober Awkward Writing Competition. Honest, funny, heartbreaking, hopeful, awkward and beautifully human, these stories come from people all over the world who have experienced the ups and downs of changing their relationship with alcohol.Whether you’re sober curious, newly alcohol-free, years into recovery, or simply wondering if life might feel better without booze, we hope these stories remind you that you’re not alone.Writing has a powerful way of helping us make sense of our lives. It can shine a light on things we’ve hidden away, help us process difficult experiences, and remind us just how resilient we really are. Plus, it’s considerably cheaper than therapy and doesn’t require you to wear pants.So grab a cuppa, get comfortable, and join us for this week’s Share Shed as Vic tells another story from our amazing community.💛 Resources & Links📘 Victoria’s memoir – A Thousand Wasted SundaysA brutally honest and hilarious look at motherhood, anxiety, and ditching the booze.👉 Buy the book here or head to the website to find out more about writing mentorships with Vic.👉 www.soberawkward.com🫖 Join The Cuppa CommunityOur private, supportive online space for sober folk👉 www.cuppa.community📘 Get the Sober Awkward GuideOur downloadable toolkit for ditching booze the awkward way.👉 The Sober Awkward Guide📱 Follow us for daily sober fun:Instagram: @soberawkwardTikTok: @soberawkwardFacebook: Sober Awkward Community for Women📞 SUPPORT & RESOURCESIf anything in today’s episode felt familiar, or you’re worried about your drinking, there is support available. You don’t have to do this alone.🇦🇺 AustraliaNational Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline📞 1800 250 015 (24/7)https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/alcohol-and-drug-information-serviceLifeline📞 13 11 14 (24/7)https://www.lifeline.org.auHello Sunday Morning / Daybreakhttps://hellosundaymorning.orghttps://daybreakapp.com.auClean Slate Clinichttps://www.cleanslateclinic.com🇬🇧 United KingdomDrinkline📞 0300 123 1110https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/alcohol-advice/alcohol-support/Alcohol Change UKhttps://alcoholchange.org.ukWe Are With Youhttps://www.wearewithyou.org.uk🌍 InternationalAlcoholics Anonymoushttps://www.aa.orgSMART Recoveryhttps://www.smartrecovery.org💬 A Gentle ReminderIf you’re drinking in the morning to cope, especially with anxiety or withdrawal symptoms, it’s important to speak to a doctor or medical professional. Stopping alcohol suddenly can be unsafe for some people, and getting support can make a huge difference.
  • 6. Your Brain, Your Body, Your Hormones, Your Risk - with Professor David Nutt

    43:13||Season 14, Ep. 6
    How bad is alcohol, really? Is a weekend binge cancelled out by a few sober days and what exactly is happening in our brains during hangxiety?Vic is joined by world renowned psychiatrist and neuroscientist Professor David Nutt, who has spent more than 40 years studying how alcohol and other drugs affect our brains, bodies and behaviour.They explore the moment an evening treat becomes something we need, why women may be affected differently, what changes when we stop drinking and whether science can create the relaxing, sociable effects of alcohol without the hangovers.Professor Nutt also shares his own relationship with alcohol, challenges some of our most comforting drinking myths and reveals the one fact he wishes every drinker understood before taking their first sip.Prepare to have happy hour thoroughly ruined, in the most fascinating way possible.💛 Resources & LinksProfessor David NuttBook links: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Drink-Science-Alcohol-Your-Health/dp/152939323X https://www.amazon.co.uk/Psychedelics-revolutionary-drugs-change-expert/dp/1529360536/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0The drinks company (SENTIA Spirits): https://sentiaspirits.com/ 📘 Victoria’s memoir – A Thousand Wasted SundaysA brutally honest and hilarious look at motherhood, anxiety, and ditching the booze.👉 https://amzn.asia/d/0aZ69GpKVic's book 'Mumming - A year of Trying (and Failing) to be a better parent - https://amzn.asia/d/0bUJTS2W🎧 Listen to more Sober Awkward episodes👉 www.soberawkward.com🫖 Join The Cuppa CommunityOur private, supportive online space for sober folk👉 www.cuppa.community📘 Get the Sober Awkward GuideOur downloadable toolkit for ditching booze the awkward way.👉 The Sober Awkward Guide📱 Follow us for daily sober fun:Instagram: @soberawkwardTikTok: @soberawkwardFacebook: Sober Awkward Community for Women
  • The Share Shed: Writing Competition Entries

    07:26|
    The Share Shed – Sober Awkward Writing Competition Specials - A Drinking Career - By KimberleyEvery Thursday, we’re handing the story telling over to you.Over the next few months, Vic will be reading some of the incredible entries from this year’s Sober Awkward Writing Competition. Honest, funny, heartbreaking, hopeful, awkward and beautifully human, these stories come from people all over the world who have experienced the ups and downs of changing their relationship with alcohol.Whether you’re sober curious, newly alcohol-free, years into recovery, or simply wondering if life might feel better without booze, we hope these stories remind you that you’re not alone.Writing has a powerful way of helping us make sense of our lives. It can shine a light on things we’ve hidden away, help us process difficult experiences, and remind us just how resilient we really are. Plus, it’s considerably cheaper than therapy and doesn’t require you to wear pants.So grab a cuppa, get comfortable, and join us for this week’s Share Shed as Vic tells another story from our amazing community.💛 Resources & Links📘 Victoria’s memoir – A Thousand Wasted SundaysA brutally honest and hilarious look at motherhood, anxiety, and ditching the booze.👉 Buy the book here or head to the website to find out more about writing mentorships with Vic.👉 www.soberawkward.com🫖 Join The Cuppa CommunityOur private, supportive online space for sober folk👉 www.cuppa.community📘 Get the Sober Awkward GuideOur downloadable toolkit for ditching booze the awkward way.👉 The Sober Awkward Guide📱 Follow us for daily sober fun:Instagram: @soberawkwardTikTok: @soberawkwardFacebook: Sober Awkward Community for Women📞 SUPPORT & RESOURCESIf anything in today’s episode felt familiar, or you’re worried about your drinking, there is support available. You don’t have to do this alone.🇦🇺 AustraliaNational Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline📞 1800 250 015 (24/7)https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/alcohol-and-drug-information-serviceLifeline📞 13 11 14 (24/7)https://www.lifeline.org.auHello Sunday Morning / Daybreakhttps://hellosundaymorning.orghttps://daybreakapp.com.auClean Slate Clinichttps://www.cleanslateclinic.com🇬🇧 United KingdomDrinkline📞 0300 123 1110https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/alcohol-advice/alcohol-support/Alcohol Change UKhttps://alcoholchange.org.ukWe Are With Youhttps://www.wearewithyou.org.uk🌍 InternationalAlcoholics Anonymoushttps://www.aa.orgSMART Recoveryhttps://www.smartrecovery.org💬 A Gentle ReminderIf you’re drinking in the morning to cope, especially with anxiety or withdrawal symptoms, it’s important to speak to a doctor or medical professional. Stopping alcohol suddenly can be unsafe for some people, and getting support can make a huge difference.
  • 6. Beyond the Applause with Gorillaz Bassist Seye Adelekan

    53:52||Season 14, Ep. 6
    In this episode, Gorillaz bassist Seye Adelekan joins Vic for a wonderfully honest conversation about belonging, family, fame and finding his place in the music world.Seye talks about moving around the world as a child, the family who shaped him, his love of music, touring, the forgotten gigs and the long period he spent in rehab.Now over seven years sober, he shares how recovery changed his life, his relationships and the way he steps onto some of the world’s biggest stages - stone cold sober.Seye wants people to leave his gigs, his online spaces and his everyday interactions with something more than they arrived with, and Vic genuinely felt that warmth by the end of their conversation.He shows sobriety does not have to make you smaller, quieter or less capable of performing in front of a crowd. Sometimes, it helps you stop hiding, own your space and finally understand why you are standing there.(Vic also tells Seye the story of her finger, which, between two former party animals familiar with two-day benders, earns her a surprising amount of respect. Some people bond over music and recovery, while others compare unexplained bodily damage from the old days!)Enjoy!💛 Resources & LinksFollow and Find out more about Seye head to https://www.seyemusic.co.uk @seyemusic📘 Victoria’s memoir – A Thousand Wasted SundaysA brutally honest and hilarious look at motherhood, anxiety, and ditching the booze.👉 https://amzn.asia/d/0aZ69GpKVic's book 'Mumming - A year of Trying (and Failing) to be a better parent - https://amzn.asia/d/0bUJTS2W🎧 Listen to more Sober Awkward episodes👉 www.soberawkward.com🫖 Join The Cuppa CommunityOur private, supportive online space for sober folk👉 www.cuppa.community📘 Get the Sober Awkward GuideOur downloadable toolkit for ditching booze the awkward way.👉 The Sober Awkward Guide📱 Follow us for daily sober fun:Instagram: @soberawkwardTikTok: @soberawkwardFacebook: Sober Awkward Community for Women
  • The Share Shed: Writing Competition Entries

    09:42|
    The Share Shed – Sober Awkward Writing Competition Specials - I didn’t realise it was a funeral - By SarahA huge congratulations to Sarah who was one of this years winners!!Every Thursday, we’re handing the story telling over to you.Over the next few months, Vic will be reading some of the incredible entries from this year’s Sober Awkward Writing Competition. Honest, funny, heartbreaking, hopeful, awkward and beautifully human, these stories come from people all over the world who have experienced the ups and downs of changing their relationship with alcohol.Whether you’re sober curious, newly alcohol-free, years into recovery, or simply wondering if life might feel better without booze, we hope these stories remind you that you’re not alone.Writing has a powerful way of helping us make sense of our lives. It can shine a light on things we’ve hidden away, help us process difficult experiences, and remind us just how resilient we really are. Plus, it’s considerably cheaper than therapy and doesn’t require you to wear pants.So grab a cuppa, get comfortable, and join us for this week’s Share Shed as Vic tells another story from our amazing community.💛 Resources & Links📘 Victoria’s memoir – A Thousand Wasted SundaysA brutally honest and hilarious look at motherhood, anxiety, and ditching the booze.👉 Buy the book here or head to the website to find out more about writing mentorships with Vic.👉 www.soberawkward.com🫖 Join The Cuppa CommunityOur private, supportive online space for sober folk👉 www.cuppa.community📘 Get the Sober Awkward GuideOur downloadable toolkit for ditching booze the awkward way.👉 The Sober Awkward Guide📱 Follow us for daily sober fun:Instagram: @soberawkwardTikTok: @soberawkwardFacebook: Sober Awkward Community for Women📞 SUPPORT & RESOURCESIf anything in today’s episode felt familiar, or you’re worried about your drinking, there is support available. You don’t have to do this alone.🇦🇺 AustraliaNational Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline📞 1800 250 015 (24/7)https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/alcohol-and-drug-information-serviceLifeline📞 13 11 14 (24/7)https://www.lifeline.org.auHello Sunday Morning / Daybreakhttps://hellosundaymorning.orghttps://daybreakapp.com.auClean Slate Clinichttps://www.cleanslateclinic.com🇬🇧 United KingdomDrinkline📞 0300 123 1110https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/alcohol-advice/alcohol-support/Alcohol Change UKhttps://alcoholchange.org.ukWe Are With Youhttps://www.wearewithyou.org.uk🌍 InternationalAlcoholics Anonymoushttps://www.aa.orgSMART Recoveryhttps://www.smartrecovery.org💬 A Gentle ReminderIf you’re drinking in the morning to cope, especially with anxiety or withdrawal symptoms, it’s important to speak to a doctor or medical professional. Stopping alcohol suddenly can be unsafe for some people, and getting support can make a huge difference.
  • The Share Shed: Writing Competition Entries

    10:29|
    The Share Shed – Sober Awkward Writing Competition Specials - I scream... and she lets go - By Lisa Every Thursday, we’re handing the story telling over to you.Over the next few months, Vic will be reading some of the incredible entries from this year’s Sober Awkward Writing Competition. Honest, funny, heartbreaking, hopeful, awkward and beautifully human, these stories come from people all over the world who have experienced the ups and downs of changing their relationship with alcohol.Whether you’re sober curious, newly alcohol-free, years into recovery, or simply wondering if life might feel better without booze, we hope these stories remind you that you’re not alone.Writing has a powerful way of helping us make sense of our lives. It can shine a light on things we’ve hidden away, help us process difficult experiences, and remind us just how resilient we really are. Plus, it’s considerably cheaper than therapy and doesn’t require you to wear pants.So grab a cuppa, get comfortable, and join us for this week’s Share Shed as Vic tells another story from our amazing community.💛 Resources & Links📘 Victoria’s memoir – A Thousand Wasted SundaysA brutally honest and hilarious look at motherhood, anxiety, and ditching the booze.👉 Buy the book here or head to the website to find out more about writing mentorships with Vic.👉 www.soberawkward.com🫖 Join The Cuppa CommunityOur private, supportive online space for sober folk👉 www.cuppa.community📘 Get the Sober Awkward GuideOur downloadable toolkit for ditching booze the awkward way.👉 The Sober Awkward Guide📱 Follow us for daily sober fun:Instagram: @soberawkwardTikTok: @soberawkwardFacebook: Sober Awkward Community for Women📞 SUPPORT & RESOURCESIf anything in today’s episode felt familiar, or you’re worried about your drinking, there is support available. You don’t have to do this alone.🇦🇺 AustraliaNational Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline📞 1800 250 015 (24/7)https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/alcohol-and-drug-information-serviceLifeline📞 13 11 14 (24/7)https://www.lifeline.org.auHello Sunday Morning / Daybreakhttps://hellosundaymorning.orghttps://daybreakapp.com.auClean Slate Clinichttps://www.cleanslateclinic.com🇬🇧 United KingdomDrinkline📞 0300 123 1110https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/alcohol-advice/alcohol-support/Alcohol Change UKhttps://alcoholchange.org.ukWe Are With Youhttps://www.wearewithyou.org.uk🌍 InternationalAlcoholics Anonymoushttps://www.aa.orgSMART Recoveryhttps://www.smartrecovery.org💬 A Gentle ReminderIf you’re drinking in the morning to cope, especially with anxiety or withdrawal symptoms, it’s important to speak to a doctor or medical professional. Stopping alcohol suddenly can be unsafe for some people, and getting support can make a huge difference.