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Is Alcoholism In The Blood? - With Arabella Byrne
Season 10, Ep. 19
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Did we inherit our drinking habit and have our years of over doing it been passed onto our own kids?
In short, is Alcoholism genetic? It's a question that we get asked by worried ex-drinkers and many struggling with their sobriety about 3 times a week!
Just like many of the questions we get asked - we don't feel as if we have the knowledge or experience to offer any kind of accurate answer...which is why we invited Arabella Byrne onto the podcast.
Arabella is the co-author (alongside her mother Julia Hamilton) of 'In The Blood' - the UK's first mother/daughter recovery memoir. She is also a proud ambassador for the National Association for Children of Alcoholics (NACOA).
This incredible book tracks the stories of alcoholism (that of Arabella's and of her mother Julia's). Arabella gave up booze just 9 months after her mother and they would go onto attend AA meetings together. There are heartbreaking similarities in both of their stories and the book is so beautifully written that it brought me to tears more than once.
Unlike many other books that I have read on the subject, this is not quit-lit, this is storytelling at its most raw and honest. An exploration into the relationship between mothers and daughters and in between alcoholic parents and their children.
I dare you to read it, or listen to Arabella discuss this topic, without being deeply moved. It is as heartbreaking as it is inspiring.
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You can find Arabella through her Instagram which is @drarabella or at her X account which is @drarabellabyrne.
If you would like to purchase her book 'In the Blood' which she co-wrote with her mother Julia Hamilton - this can be done here:https://www.amazon.com.au/Blood-stirring-mother-daughter-alcoholism-generations-ebook/dp/B0D13HCPKF
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