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Part 1: I’m Sober… So Why Do I Still Hate My Body?
So, we got sober… but guess what? We still don’t like what we see in the mirror. In this brutally honest episode, Vic and Hamish dive into body image, self-criticism, and why, even without booze, they still struggle with how they look. Turns out, sobriety doesn’t automatically fix self-esteem, and for many of us (especially women), body dissatisfaction runs deep—so deep that 98% of women aren’t happy with their appearance. But where does this self-loathing come from? Is it society, our upbringing, or just decades of being told we need to look a certain way?
What started as a lighthearted chat quickly turned into something way bigger than we expected, so much so that we had to split this conversation into two episodes. It turns out, body image and sobriety are more connected than we ever realised.
Prepare for raw honesty, a few awkward laughs, and maybe even some uncomfortable truths as we pick apart why we’re so hard on ourselves and whether we can actually change the way we feel about our bodies.
Show Notes
Vic's book is out! Go and get yourself a copy whilst you can...
Buy Here on Audible and Ebook
and please give a review at www.goodreads.com
JOIN PATREON! and buy us a Cuppa so we can keep being awkward!
https://www.patreon.com/user?u=81897291
www.cuppa.community – The Free Social Network for the Sober and Sober Curious - Sober Events – Therapy – Sobriety Courses – Sober Groups and loads more.
@soberawkward @drunkmummysobermummy
@cuppa.community @hamishadamscairns @patreon @spotify
If you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol please reach out to your local doctor, a therapist, AA Group or just chat to a close friend. Don’t feel shame, just get the help you deserve. Contact us! If you have a topic you’d like us to cover then please email us -
vicandhamish@soberawkward.com
Sign up to our 30 Day Sober Tour Guide at www.soberawkward.com
#soberawkward #soberawkwardpodcast #drunkmummysobermummy #cuppa.community #sober #sobermom #sobermummy #sobriety #soberaf #sobermovement #sobercurious #alcoholfree #mummybloggers #writersofinsta #soberfamily #greyareadrinking #addiction #soberissexy #soberwomen #sobermomtribe #sobrietyrocks #soberlifestyle #alcoholfreelife #wedorecover #sobernation #mumblog #mentalhealth #motherhood #wineoclock #sobermums #selfcare #womeninrecovery #sobercommunity #soberdads #1000sundays
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