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Does Building Self-Esteem in Teens stop them Leaning on Booze?

Season 8, Ep. 11

If we raise kids that have high self-esteem will this make them less likely to drink alcohol?


This episode is for the parents out there that are feeling scared about their kids becoming teens, going off the rails, drinking cider in farmers fields and putting themselves at risk because of bad teenage choices. This is also for anyone who was this child (lets guess at about 98% of our audience!) was it your low self esteem that caused you to reach for the bottle and would life have been different if our parents had taught us to simply love who we are?


Today Vic and Hame talk about about how they felt as teens, why they rebelled and why they felt 'less than' growing up? Don't worry, after they've bored you with all their angsty teen insecurities they'll turn it all around and find out why instilling good values and some good old self worth into our kids might mean they are less likely to follow a drunken crowd and make wiser choices by themselves.


Get your biro's out Mums and Dads. This one is going to make you into a proper adult!


Show Notes


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Vic's book is out! Go and get yourself a copy whilst you can...

https://www.booktopia.com.au/a-thousand-wasted-sundays-victoria-vanstone/book/9780645757941.html

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If you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol please reach out to your local doctor, a therapist, AA Group or just chat to a close friend. Don’t feel shame, just get the help you deserve. Contact us! If you have a topic you’d like us to cover then please email us -

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