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2028: Ask Farnoosh: What Annoys Me Most About Money? (Encore)
On this week's Ask Farnoosh Friday, we're tackling five thoughtful listener questions that touch on everything from career transitions and combining finances as a couple to insurance, retirement accounts, and planning for the future.
Before we dive into the mailbag, I also share a few headlines that caught my attention this week—including a fascinating new trend in prenups designed to protect stay-at-home parents, California's latest move to make personal finance a graduation requirement, and a New York Times article about the money frustrations that seem uniquely American (plus a few of my own!). And yes...So Money is officially on YouTube.
In this episode:
• Why you shouldn't feel guilty quietly job hunting before you have an offer
• The best way to leave an employer professionally while protecting your own career
• How couples can combine finances without sacrificing independence
• Why "fair" doesn't always mean splitting expenses 50/50
• My favorite three-account system for couples
• The insurance policies every young professional should prioritize—and which ones can probably wait
• Why your ability to earn an income may be your greatest financial asset
• When to start thinking seriously about long-term care insurance
• How to prepare for future caregiving conversations with your parents
• What to do with an old, empty 401(k) account after your employer changes retirement providers
• Why cybersecurity deserves a place in every annual financial checkup
Also in the news:
• A new prenup trend: More couples are adding "leave the workforce" clauses to protect spouses who pause their careers to raise children or provide care, recognizing the real financial cost of unpaid caregiving.
• Money annoyances in America: Inspired by a New York Times article from Ron Lieber and Tara Siegel Bernard, I share my own biggest financial pet peeves—from managing kids' allowance to credit card surcharges and New Jersey property taxes.
• Financial literacy gains momentum: California becomes the 26th state to require a standalone personal finance course for high school graduation, signaling a major shift in how we prepare young people for adulthood.
Resources & Mentions
• So Money is now on YouTube
• Columbia Journalism Review's feature on The Montclair Pod
• Wall Street Journal reporting on caregiving clauses in prenups
• New York Times article: "6 Things That Drive Us Crazy About Money in America" by Ron Lieber and Tara Siegel Bernard
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