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1872: Ask Farnoosh: When Money Gets Messy: Family, Love, and Work Decisions
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In this week's Ask Farnoosh episode, we tackle three major financial dilemmas from listeners: Setting Boundaries as a Daughter of Immigrants, Avoiding Financial Dependence on a Partner and Knowing When to Walk Away from a Business. Plus, a behind-the-scenes update on The Montclair Pod, and reflections on launching a new show 10 years after So Money.
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This episode aired originally on February 21, 2025.
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