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šļø SHIFT Podcast ā Episode 7: Sifting (Preparation Over Punishment)
What if the weight youāre carrying isnāt punishment, but preparation? In this episode of the SHIFT Podcast, we dive into the power of sifting ā letting go of fear, shame, toxic habits, expired relationships, and old labels that keep you stuck. Just like flour must be sifted to rise, your life has to be refined so God can bless what remains.
I share a personal story from my grandmotherās kitchen and how her biscuit-making wisdom still preaches truth today. Weāll talk about how to release the clumps of regret, trauma, and comparison, and how to recognize when people or habits are part of Godās sifting process.
This is not about perfection, itās about presence, accountability, and choosing covenant over convenience. Whether itās your heart, your habits, your circle, or your calling, this episode will give you practical steps to release what holds you back and rise into the purpose God prepared for you.
⨠Key Takeaways:
- Sifting is preparation, not punishment.
- What remains after the sift is what God can bless.
- People and habits can be part of the sift.
- Legacy is about what you leave in your children, not just what you leave for them.
- Releasing the old makes space for new strength, wisdom, and peace.
š Scripture Anchor: Hebrews 12:1 ā Throw off everything that hinders and run the race marked out for you.
š„ Catch Phrases: Preparation feels like pruning, but itās really protection. New mercy, new story. Less scroll, more soul. Covenant over convenience.
Listen now and ask yourself: What needs to be sifted so you can fully shift?
š Stay Ready, Shift Higher. This is the SHIFT Podcast.
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