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Dare #15 This Week’s Dare: Listen to nature

Season 4, Ep. 136

This week’s Dare Day episode was inspired by an unexpected quiet moment.


An early morning drive.

No traffic. No radio.

nd the sudden realisation that I could hear birds singing — from inside the car.


That small moment led to a bigger question: when did we stop noticing what’s around us?

In this bonus episode, Michelle shares a simple but grounding story about an early winter morning, a red sky, a cup of tea in the garden, and how listening — properly listening — shifted her entire day.


The episode also connects to insights from Episode with Georgia, who described a chance visit to an RSPB hide that made her realise how much of the natural world she’d been missing simply because she’d never stopped to notice it.

This isn’t sentimental fluff.

There’s real science behind why moments like this feel so powerful.


In this episode, we cover:


  • Why natural sounds like birdsong calm the nervous system
  • How most of us live in low-level fight-or-flight without realising
  • The concept of “soft fascination” and why nature restores a tired brain
  • How listening grounds us in the present and eases anxiety
  • Why nothing has to change around you for something to shift internally

This Week’s Dare:

Take 5–10 minutes early in the morning.

Before your phone.

Before conversations.

Before the world gets loud.

No music. No podcasts. No scrolling.

Make a tea or coffee if you like. Sit outside, on a doorstep, balcony, or by an open window.

Close your eyes.

And listen.

Birds, wind, distance, silence — whatever is there.

You’re not trying to relax.

You’re not fixing anything.

You’re simply reminding your nervous system that it’s safe.

If you’ve stopped hearing the birds, there’s a good chance you’ve been carrying too much noise for too long.


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