Sextras

In this episode of Sextras, Honey speaks to Zoe K, a sophrologist and somatic coach ‘for the girls, gays, and theys’. For as long as heterosexuality has been ‘the norm’, queer people have been forced into disconnect with their bodies, which naturally has a knock on effect on confidence. Zoe tells us how sophrology – a blend of meditation, mindfulness, and breathwork – can help us feel in harmony with our bodies during sex again. She shares her experience being neurodivergent and a sex worker, and how those factors can also contribute to disconnect, as well as how breathwork can help get out of your mind during sex.To end the episode, Honey and Zoe discuss how sexuality and being present in your body is a radical act in a world where productivity is championed.Thanks so much for listening. You can find Zoe on Instagram, TikTok, and her website, where there are plenty of links to learn more about sophrology. As always, you can find Sextras on on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and our website. We want to hear your queer sex and dating stories, dilemmas, and questions. Email us at sextraspodcast@gmail.com, leave us an anonymous message on our website, or DM us on Instagram to get in touch.Produced and hosted by Honey Jane Wyatt. Edited by Leanne Marie Hall.

Happy Pride month! In case it wasn't clear already, we're huge fans of the LGBTQ+ community here at Sextras, so we'll be publishing an episode a week for the rest of the month. This week, Honey talks to Samuel Douek, founder of HOWL, a sexual wellness brand and queer, sex-positive rave. Samuel tells us all about his journey into starting the brand, including why he was drawn to running queer nightlife. We talk about the challenges of running a dark room and marketing a queer-friendly CBD lube in a world where sexual wellness is increasingly censored. Samuel even shares some upcoming launches and changes to HOWL raves to look out for.You can find Honey's favourite lube here, info about upcoming parties here, and follow Samuel and HOWL on Instagram to keep up with what they have coming up.As always, you can find Sextras on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and our website. We want to hear your queer sex and dating stories, dilemmas, and questions. Email us at sextraspodcast@gmail.com, leave us an anonymous message on our website, or DM us on Instagram to get in touch. Don't forget to leave a review wherever you're listening to support us! It's Pride month, don't let us down (or else...). Produced by Honey Jane Wyatt.

Happy Masturbation May! To mark one of the best months of the year (IMO) we're talking all about orgasms, and whether they need to be the goal during sex or masturbation.To start the episode, Honey talks to our deputy editor, Lucy, about faking orgasms. We discuss how the female orgasm varies from the male orgasm, and why the orgasm rates are different for women in straight relationships versus queer relationships.Honey then talks to Samantha Marshall, head of brand at Smile Makers Collection. Sam explains why the orgasm gap exists, and how that varies between sex and masturbation.We then delve into why women should take their pleasure seriously – both solo and with partners – and how we can approach masturbation more mindfully.You can find Lucy on Instagram and Substack. Smile Makers Collection has 11 incredible vibrators, and a pelvic floor device, and you can find them on Instagram, too.As always, you can find Sextras on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and our website. Leave us a review (so I can keep getting amazing guests!) or get in touch with us at sextraspodcast@gmail.com with questions, dilemmas, or what you want to hear next.Hosted and produced by Honey Jane Wyatt.

If we're at all similar, you'll have been just as obsessed as I was with Temptation Island Season 2. It was the kind of show I had a million questions about: why would anyone go on it in the first place? What is it like to be on the show? Did the cast have any regrets? And, no shade, but the reunion didn't answer most of them. Thankfully, on this week's episode of the podcast I got to sit down with Kai Stone, one of the singles on Temptation Island Season 2 (of 'duh' fame) to talk all about why he went on the show, whether he enjoyed it, and the truth about dating on camera for a reality TV show.You can find Kai on Instagram or TikTok @kaistone808. As always, you can find Sextras on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and our website. Leave us a review (so I can keep getting amazing guests!) or get in touch with us at sextraspodcast@gmail.com with questions, dilemmas, or what you want to hear next.Hosted and produced by Honey Jane Wyatt.

Happy Lesbian Visibility Week 2026! On this week's episode, I'm joined by Katie, founder of Labeless, a queer sex toy company. Katie tells me all about her latest release (hint: it's a sapphic sex toy) and we jump into why labels are sometimes problematic when it comes to lesbian sex.I ask Katie what kinds of sex toys can be used during lesbian sex, and how beginners or couples can start to integrate sex toys more in the bedroom. Thank you so much to Katie for joining! Labeless is on Instagram or you can shop the full collection here. You can find more of Sextras on our Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and website. Leave us a review or get in touch with us at sextraspodcast@gmail.com with questions, dilemmas, or what you want to hear next.We'll see you in a couple of weeks! If you like reality TV, you'll want to stick around for this one.Hosted and produced by Honey Jane Wyatt

Internet feminism has latched onto a long-contested debate: can you work in porn and be a feminist? In this episode, Honey is joined by Cat, the head of creative, community at education at female-led porn company Ersties, to mull it over.They talk about what it's really like working for a female-led porn company, how it made Cat realise she wanted to date women, what the state of the porn industry is like today, and whether you can really be a feminist and work in porn. You can find Cat on Instagram and Ersties on their free SFW website or paid platform, and on Instagram and TikTok.You can find more of Sextras on our Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and website. Leave us a review or get in touch with us at sextraspodcast@gmail.com with questions, dilemmas, or what you want to hear next.We'll see you in a couple of weeks with our next episode ahead of Lesbian Visibility Day. See you then!Produced and hosted by Honey Jane Wyatt.

Want to win a free sex toy? All you have to do is follow us on Instagram and leave a review of the podcast wherever you're listening or become a paid subscriber to our Substack. For just £6 a month you'll get access to: extended podcast episodes, bonus episodes, exclusive features and essays, biweekly newsletters, and a community chat. Send us a screenshot of your submission to sextraspodcast@gmail.com or our Instagram DMs. Submissions close 31 March. Must be based in EU or UK to enter. A carefully curated post-break-up Instagram profile. A £3.5k wedding videographer. Shit-talking your ex on TikTok. We're obsessed with appearances and (guess what?!) it's impacting our relationships.In the first episode of the series, Honey was joined by relationships editor Daniella Parete Clarke to talk about how we're all policing each others' behaviour. This week Dani comes on the pod again to talk about the flip-side of that: how we're all performing for an imaginary audience.We start the episode by looking at Guy Debord's theory of the spectacle, and how it's showing up in politics, the workplace, our obsession with looksmaxxing, and our sex and relationships lives. We unpack why we can't stop putting on a show on dates, and why it's dangerous to force vulnerability and pleasure instead of just feel it.Thank you for listening! You can find us on Instagram, TikTok, and Substack (where we have tons of articles about sex and relationships and exclusive content), or contact us via our website to get involved in the conversation or tell us what you want us to talk about next.Got a sex/relationship/friendship-related confession or dilemma? Submit it anonymously here and we'll make a whole episode or write an article just for you.In this episode we reference:Guy Debord's The Society of the SpectacleThe inevitable rise of gooning, Cosmopolitan UKThe Good Squad, Harper'sThe relentless rise of impossible male beauty standards, The GuardianThe Unreal Spectacle of Trump's Authoritarianism, NYTI did no work for a year and no one noticed, Leyla Kazim, SubstackThe secret power of oversharing: How saying too much became the key to getting ahead, The IndependentTimothée and Kylie really need you to know they're still together, DazedHinge's D.A.T.E reportTill DVD release do us part: how far will Margot Robbie and Jacob Elordi take their Wuthering Heights showmance?, The GuardianI do? The rise and rise of the absurdly long engagement, The IndependentIs It Just Us? Or Are Engagement Rings Getting Bigger? Cosmopolitan USSince When Did Break-Ups Get So Public?, VogueHosted by Honey Jane Wyatt and co-hosted by Danielle Parete ClarkeMusic by Sacha Puttnam

Not to sound conspiratorial or whatever, but Big Tech doesn't want us to talk about sex on social media. But it's not just sex, and specifically pleasure, that's not allowed. Women's health content, LGBTQ+ issues, and sexual wellbeing is also not allowed – especially not when it's posted by marginalised community.So let's get into it: in this episode we paint a picture of the breadth of digital suppression, and why exactly we all need to be talking about it more. We speak to co-founder of campaign group CensHERship, Clio Wood, about what's happening to women's health content creators, as well as Kalila Bolton, co-founder of sexual wellness and education platform SheSpot, and Amari, a sex coach and virtual assistant, about their experience with having their accounts shadowbanned or paid ads removed.We look at why this censorship is happening and its impact, and ask porn historian Noelle Perdue whether legislating against sexual content online is the most effective approach.Thanks for tuning in, if you enjoy the episode please leave us a review wherever you're listening! Subscribe to our Substack to make sure you never miss an episode or an article, get involved in the conversation, and let us know what you want to hear next. You can find us on Instagram, TikTok, and our website, or get in touch with us via email sextraspodcast@gmail.com with what you want to hear next.You can find more on our guests below:CensHERship on their website, LinkedIn, or InstagramSheSpot on their website or InstagramAmari on Instagram or her websiteNoelle Perdue on her Substack.In this episode, we frequently reference:CensHERship's 2025 White Paper'Algospeak and performing for the alforithmic imaginary' in DazedNoelle's Substack post: 'Are you 18 or over? Are you my mother? Are you my sexy surveillance state?'Contact us with questions about other sources used! Hosted by Honey Jane WyattMusic by Sacha Puttnam