Sex in Space

On the latest episode of the Sex in Space podcast, Toshi had the opportunity to speak with Anil Padavatan, the Health Programs Lead at GATE, (Global Action for Trans Equality), about trans healthcare. Together, they had a conversation about what trans healthcare is, why and how all kinds of people – not just those who are transgender – access services like puberty blockers and hormone replacement therapy, they debunked some common myths and misinformation surrounding this topic, and looked at the different ways that families can exist in the world. Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  00:39 – What is GATE?  01:13 – What does it mean to be transgender?  02:42 – What is trans healthcare?  03:38 – What is gender affirming care?  04:48 – Some examples of gender affirming care 05:18 – Some reasons a person might access gender affirming care  06:09 – Cisgender people also access gender affirming care 08:13 – How do puberty blockers work?  09:37 – Are puberty blockers reversible?  10:41 – When can people use puberty blockers?  13:13 – Risks and benefits of puberty blockers 16:41 – The reality of medical interventions for young people   18:45 – What is hormone replacement therapy and who uses it?  21:34 – Being transgender and fertility  26:23 – What is gender affirming surgery? 27:50 – Who is able to access gender affirming surgery?  30:05 – The facts around gender affirming surgery and regret  34:25 – Different kinds of families  37:42 – Conclusion  Resources:  World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH) Standards of Care 8: https://www.wpath.org/soc8  Guidelines for gender affirming healthcare for gender diverse and transgender children, young people and adults in Aotearoa, New Zealand: https://patha.nz/Guidelines  Southern African HIV Clinicians Society Gender Affirming Healthcare Guidelines: https://www.sahivsoc.org/Subheader/Index/sahcs-guidelines  Cornell University Public Policy Research Portal, What does the scholarly research say about the effect of gender transition on transgender well-being?: https://whatweknow.inequality.cornell.edu/topics/lgbt-equality/what-does-the-scholarly-research-say-about-the-well-being-of-transgender-people/  GATE Knowledge Portal: https://gate.ngo/knowledge-portal/  Reaffirming Autonomy of Trans and Gender Diverse Children and Adolescents: https://gate.ngo/knowledge-portal/publication/reaffirming-autonomy-of-trans-and-gender-diverse-children-and-adolescents/  Trans and Intersex Rising Zimbabwe: https://trinrizim.weebly.com/

On this week's episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Dr Paula Hall, a sexual and relationship psychotherapist who specialises in helping people affected by sex addiction and porn addiction. Dr Hall has been working as a therapist for 30 years and currently runs the biggest clinic in the UK, and the biggest therapy training programme for compulsive sexual behaviours.  Together, Dr Hall and Toshi spoke about identifying problematic porn use, advice for anyone who thinks that their porn consumption might be an issue, the impact that compulsive porn use has on partners and how they can access support of their own, why being anti-porn is not the solution and why compulsive porn use is the symptom of a bigger issue.  Dr Hall is the author of several books including Understanding & Treating Sex and Pornography Addiction, Sex Addiction: The Partner’s Perspective, Confronting Porn, and Sex Addiction: A Guide for Couples. Dr Hall has also peer reviewed a number of papers.  Watch her TED Talk on sex addiction here: https://youtu.be/-Qf2e3XZ8Tw?si=8VpOEgOynjCgDxjU Learn more about the Laurel Centre: https://thelaurelcentre.co.uk/ Find more info about Pivotal Recovery here: https://www.pivotalrecovery.org/ Check out our book, 'How to talk with your kids about porn: https://www.sexinspace.com/book-2 Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  00:40 – Dr Hall’s background + work  03:41 – Porn addiction vs compulsive porn use 06:02 – When is someone’s porn use problematic?  08:31 – Advice if you think your porn use might be an issue 10:33 – How shame gets in the way of people seeking help 12:45 – Why you need to work out what healthy sexuality means for you  14:36 – The impact of compulsive porn use on partners 16:55 – Support for partners of someone with compulsive porn use  18:43 – Dr Hall’s message for parents  24:06 – Why being anti-porn is not a solution 27:44 – The issue with trying to block pornography 29:28 – How moral debates can get in the way of helping people 33:18 – Compulsive porn use is the symptom of a bigger issue 35:52 – How the brain changes when a behaviour shifts from being recreational to compulsive  38:22 – One thing Dr. Hall wants you to take away from this podcast 39:31 – About Pivotal Recovery 40:43 - Conclusion Software mentioned by Dr Hall - Canopy: https://canopy.us/Qustodio: https://www.qustodio.com/en/Covenant Eyes: https://www.covenanteyes.com/-----------------  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/   

Tim was joined by Catherine Carr for this episode – Catherine is producer of the acclaimed BBC Radio 4 series 'About The Boys.' This insightful five-part series takes a deep dive into the lives of teenage boys in the UK, exploring their challenges, fears, and hopes in a world that's rapidly changing. The show has been praised for its honest and raw portrayal of boys' experiences, offering a platform for their voices to be heard. Catherine, who is also a mother of boys, brings a unique and empathetic perspective to the series, making it a must-listen for anyone interested in the lives of young men today. Listen to ‘About the Boys’ here: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m001yshm/episodes/player Freddie Feltham, mentioned in the podcast: https://www.theguardian.com/news/2024/jan/06/im-andrew-tates-audience-and-i-know-why-he-appeals-to-young-men Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  01:26 – Catherine’s background  03:26 – What ‘About the Boys’ is all about 06:14 – The two stories that kicked off the project 11:37 – How Catherine put the series together 12:47 – Societal perceptions of young boys 16:29 – Letting the boys tell their story 18:30 – The impact of social media on boys 21:03 – Problematic male influencers 24:51 – The gaps in education for young people 29:00 – Where young people are learning from  31:45 – Tips for talking with kids about sexuality and relationships 33:17 – The spaces boys inhabit: real and online 37:41 – The importance of honest conversations 40:41 – Ending on a note of optimism 41:27 – Will there be an ‘About the Girls’?  43:10 – Conclusion  -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ 

Toshi spoke with Verity Johnson, also known as Miss Vee, who MC’s for Men of Steel, New Zealand’s only male strip club. Toshi and Verity had a conversation about what audience members can expect from a night at Men of Steel, Verity’s advice for anyone thinking of going but who might be a little nervous, as well as what she’s learned about female sexuality in New Zealand from working at Men of Steel – including the differences between different generations of women and their attitudes towards sexuality, and tips for becoming less apologetic about your sexuality and desires as a female.  Check out Men of Steel here: https://www.menofsteel.co.nz/ Find them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clubmenofsteel/?hl=en Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  00:40 – What is Men of Steel?  02:35 – How people respond to the experience 03:48 – What does a typical night look like at Men of Steel?  06:55 – Who goes to this male strip club?  09:25 – Female sexuality in New Zealand 13:07 – What to know if you feel nervous about going to Men of Steel 15:00 – What Miss Vee wishes people knew about Men of Steel 16:58 – Views around male stripping over the past 25 years 18:54 – Different generational attitudes towards sex 22:16 – Advice on embracing your sexuality  23:54 – Listen to this if you’re thinking about coming to Men of Steel 24:28 – Ticket info  24:42 – Conclusion  -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ 

For this episode, Toshi was joined by Kate Barnhart from New Alternatives NYC, a multi-service drop-in centre for LGBT homeless youth and young adults in New York City. They provide a range of services, everything from food, court advocacy, school supplies and supportive counselling. Together, Kate and Toshi spoke about the work that New Alternatives does, and why it’s so important.  Find New Alternatives NYC here: https://www.newalternativesnyc.org/  Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro 00:30 – Why LGBTQ+ youth are more at risk of being homeless  01:56 – What services does New Alternatives NYC offer?  03:31 – Meeting mental health needs 05:28 – How LGBTQ+ youth respond to the services offered by New Alternatives 06:04 – Memorable moments working at New Alternatives 08:43 – Who volunteers at New Alternatives 10:12 – Why Kate founded New Alternatives 11:42 – What Kate’s learned from working here 12:42 – Why this job is like solving a puzzle  13:24 – How listeners can support New Alternatives NYC  -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ 

Sex in Space is a weekly podcast where we have open-minded conversations, delving into sex across all its infinite dimensions. Stories and voices from all genders, ages, relationships, life stages, ethnicities, walks of life, professions and ways of being in the universe.Available everywhere extraordinary podcasts are found. Subscribe to make sure you never miss an episode!Check out the full podcast episodes mentioned in the trailer:Dr Laurie Mintz / Satisfying sex lives: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/26-laurie-mintz-satisfying-sex-lives/id1554815508?i=1000622992065Vanessa Hamilton / Sex ed for parents: top tips for tricky talks: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/38-vanessa-hamilton-sex-ed-for-parents-top-tips-for/id1554815508?i=1000633155903Dr Jane Cherrington / How to talk with your kids about porn: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/43-dr-jane-cherrington-how-to-talk-with-your-kids-about-porn/id1554815508?i=1000641628876Morgana O'Reilly / Let's talk bodies: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/30-morgana-oreilly-lets-talk-bodies/id1554815508?i=1000626751039Michelle Hardenbrook / Owning the OnlyFans side-hustle: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/23-michelle-hardenbrook-owning-the-onlyfans-side-hustle/id1554815508?i=1000613465077Shaneel Lal / Banning conversion therapy in NZ: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/37-shaneel-lal-banning-conversion-therapy-in-nz/id1554815508?i=1000632494766Alex Layendecker / Sex in space: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/69-dr-alex-layendecker-sex-in-space/id1554815508?i=1000663034331

Toshi was joined by the wonderful Susan Bratton for today’s episode. Susan is an intimacy expert to millions, who is known as an ‘orgasmanaut’ and is an advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. She's created a whole bunch of techniques that transform “having sex” into making love, and is the bestselling author and publisher of an incredible 44 books. In this episode, Toshi and Susan spoke about why sex is a lifelong skill, the different kinds of orgasms the human body can experience, why bedroom communication skills are so important and how to get better at them, Susan’s top tips for having a great sex life, how to figure out your relationship values, and how to use erotic playdates to add variety to your sex life. Find more of Susan here: https://susanbratton.com/ Find her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  01:20 – Susan the ‘orgasmanaut’ 02:08 – What is an extended orgasm?  04:15 – What is an expanded orgasm?  06:07 – Susan’s experience with orgasms  07:43 – Susan's sex advice for younger people  11:00 – Matriarchal perspectives on sex   12:00 – Understanding pleasure and the female body 12:53 – The three ‘prongs’ to great sex  14:30 – The important thing to do to have a great sex life 16:21 – The sexual soulmate pact  21:03 – Working out what you want in bed  22:55 – How to communicate what you want with a partner 26:45 – Sharing favourite frames after you make love  28:51 – Figuring out your relationship values  32:55 – Using erotic playdates to add variety to your sex life  36:01 – Summary and conclusion -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ 

In this episode, Tim had the opportunity to talk with William Moore, founder of the AdvancedYOU clinic, and developer of PhalloFILL Male Girth Enhancement. They spoke about all things penis girth enhancement, from the reasons people seek this help and treatment, to the processes of the procedure, the effects and benefits, the impacts of pornography on male body image, and the future of biohacking your health.  Learn more about PhalloFILL: https://phallofill.com/ Find more about William here: https://advanced-you.com/ -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ 

On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Verity Johnson, also known as Miss Vee. Verity is a newspaper columnist, MC at Men of Steel, New Zealand’s only male strip club, and the owner of Club Burlesque – New Zealand’s first burlesque club.  Together they spoke about:  What burlesque is and what it celebrates Why Verity started Club Burlesque What you can expect if you go to a show The kind of audiences you’ll find at Club Burlesque How burlesque encourages audiences to reconsider societal attitudes towards sex  What it teaches us about desire The relationship between burlesque, freedom and sexuality  And what you might get out of an experience at a burlesque show. Club Burlesque’s 2024 season runs from July 26 – September 13 in Auckland, New Zealand. Check out Club Burlesque (and find tickets) here: https://theclubburlesque.com/ Find Club Burlesque on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clubburlesquenz/?hl=en Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  00:33 – What is burlesque?  02:54 – Understanding eros 03:25 – Why Verity started Club Burlesque 04:44 – What you can expect from a night at Club Burlesque  06:31 – Misconceptions about burlesque  07:44 – Redefining how we think about society’s attitudes towards sex  09:05 – What burlesque teaches you about desire 11:38 – On not being afraid of your sexuality 14:10 – Club Burlesque vs Men of Steel  15:04 – Seeing Auckland reclaim its sexy side  17:00 – How can we start to deconstruct shame in society?  18:42 – Where you can find more information about Club Burlesque 18:55 – Give yourself permission to enjoy sex and desire  19:52 – Conclusion