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Are You in Love… or Just in a Pattern?
Is it love—or is it a loop?
In this deep-dive episode, we unpack the messy, confusing world of attraction and explore a powerful truth: sometimes, what we call "love" is actually our nervous system clinging to what's familiar… not what's healthy.
You’ll learn:
💔 Why you’re drawn to emotionally unavailable partners (hint: it’s not just bad luck)
🧠 How your attachment style and early childhood shape who you’re attracted to
🔁 What “repetition compulsion” is—and why you keep replaying the same story in different bodies
⚠️ The difference between true compatibility and trauma bonding
🧘♀️ Why a calm nervous system might feel boring if you’re used to chaos (and how to change that)
💡 The signs that you’re in a pattern vs. a real, secure partnership
🛠 Tools to start healing: from nervous system regulation to inner child work
If you’ve ever said, “Why do I keep ending up here?”—this one’s for you. It’s time to break the cycle and choose a love that feels like peace, not a project.
To contact Eliza or work with Eliza:
https://linktr.ee/elizajoytherapeuticcoaching
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