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Am I The Asshole? I Wanted More Sex, So I Ended It
Welcome to "Am I The Asshole?" for sex and relationships! New to Sex With Emily, we weigh in on your AITA questions. First up: their marriage is on the rocks, but he wants a threesome. Is she the asshole for shutting it down? Next, his partner says she’s in pain during sex. Is he the asshole for not believing her? After that, she’s not into anal…but her partner really wants it. Is she the asshole for refusing? Next: mom just revealed she’s in a 24-hour BDSM relationship with dad. Is their daughter the asshole for freaking out?
I answer these questions and more today with my producer, Erica. Send us your AITA questions for the chance to have yours featured on the show at sexwithemily.com/aita.
See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.
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