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How to Stop the Three Poisonous Emotions RUINING Your Life

Ep. 58

What tough emotions do you battle on a consistent basis? The more we pay attention to what incites our feelings of anger, insecurity, jealousy, and others, the more self-awareness we will gain and our understanding of how to shift our mindset. 


You may think that the situations that make us feel negative emotions on a smaller scale are completely different from the bigger situations. Just because the negative emotions may not last as long, the root emotion is often the same. We will never be able to control the external situations or circumstances that may spark us to feel negative emotions, but we ARE able to control the action we take when these emotions come up. 


Today, I am talking about the three root negative emotions from the Buddhist perspective.  You will learn what the three poisonous emotions are that are ruining your life and the intentional ways you can reframe your mind and apply the antidotes for these emotions. If you’re interested in watching this episode instead of listening, you can check out the video here. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • About the three root poisonous emotions (4:37)
  • How the Greedy Demon shows up in our lives and relationships (11:43)
  • Why our lives are full of thinking either “I want this” or “I don’t want that” (20:10)
  • To stop trying to control and micromanage external circumstances (31:07)
  • This week’s LoveByte (47:05)


Q&A:

  • What are the three root poisonous emotions? In English, the three root poisonous emotions that Buddha Dharma describes are greed, anger, and confusion. 
  • How can I stop feeling negative emotions? The antidotes for the three root poisonous emotions are love, generosity, and clear seeing. 
  • How can I stop feeling irritable? Meditation! Close your eyes, imagine that there are gray clouds covering the sun, and slowly dissolve the clouds to uncover the warmth and brightness of the sun. Many times when we are annoyed or irritable, we just need a reminder that it is in our control to stop feeling that way. 


Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 


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Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.com


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