Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

Remember when you first got together with your sweetheart? That electric thrill pulsing through your body from just a simple touch or a brief kiss? After a decade or two with a mortgage, a few kids, and all the other stresses of daily life, you probably don’t feel quite the same… But wouldn’t it be incredible if you could get that feeling back? That spark, that electricity, that passion?On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m digging deep on some of the most common reasons that couples in committed, long term relationships break up… and how those relationships can be saved. At the end of October, I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to Become Passion, my signature 10 week immersion online program where I coach couples live every week. Kick off for the official program is November 3, but you can join the waitlist now and gain access to some extraordinary FREE content throughout the month of October including an exclusive live zoom workshop with me!In This Episode, You Will Learn:Over the past 3.5 years, I’ve taken nearly 500 couples through my Become Passion course (01:58)The first major reason long term relationships break up is because of unproductive, damaging conflict (08:14)When our bodies go into a flooded state, we’re triggered, anxious, and prone to dramatic and damaging arguments (10:14)The second major reason long term relationships end is when a couple drifts apart and no longer share the same priorities  - the Thrill is Gone (16:14)The third major reason long term couples split is because of sexual issues (25:55)Today’s LoveByte (29:20)Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 10-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG tLet’s Connect!  About MeInstagramWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

Think back to when you were a kid, imagining your life as a grown up. What was the most important element of that fantasy to you? Was it money? Freedom? Maybe it was that you’d have a soulmate straight out of a fairytale to share your life with, riding off into the sunset to live happily ever after…In today’s episode, I’m kicking off the most exciting time of year here on Sex, Love, and Elephants. You’ll hear all about my Become Passion program and my inspiration behind its creation.At the end of October, I'm opening the doors for the only time this year to Become Passion. That's my signature 10 week immersion online program, where I coach couples live every week. This extraordinary program is the culmination of my life's work and has changed the lives and relationships of almost 500 couples since I started in 2020. Kick off is November 3. In This Episode, You Will Learn:Happily Ever After doesn’t exist in the way we were taught as kids (04:29)The keys to passion are the three areas that every exceptional couple needs to become strong (11:46)In long term relationships, we tend to get lazy, complacent, and take our partner for granted (16:40)Don’t wait for a traumatic wake up call to realize how lucky you are to have your partner (17:06)Today’s LoveByte (26:37)Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 10-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challengesLet’s Connect!  About MeInstagramWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

Grown-up content alert! In this episode, Sheila and I talk explicitly about sexuality in and out of the bedroom. This content is not appropriate for little earsHello women - let me ask you. How sensual do you feel? How well do you know your erotic body? How deeply do you trust her? Or… do you ignore her signals and simply focus on what your brain is telling you? What if I told you that by ignoring the most beautiful erotic, pleasurable impulses of your body you are missing out on true sexual freedom and joy?In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear my conversation with Sheila Kelley, my dear friend and the founder of S Factor, a feminine movement practice that supports woman to safely and confidently unfold the story of her own body…and uncover her erotic creatures.as seen in the Netflix documentary Strip Down, Rise Up.Interested in my couples immersion program Become Passion? We begin late October. Get on the waitlist to access my free Q&A sessions and much more. No obligation—but wow is there some amazing free content coming in the next 6 weeks!In This Episode, You Will Learn:Your body is the Oracle of your life—she's smarter than you are (05:39)For someone like Sheila, your body behavior is more revealing than anything that comes out of your mouth (11:03)The more you move the muscle of emotional erotic energy, the more expansive and the more sexual you become (21:48)The feminine is life force (41:29)All of our bodies have been trained to be smaller than we are (46:25) We all have several erotic creatures inside of us…which ones do you resonate with?Today’s LoveByte (54:34)If you are ready to join me in Sheila’s 6-month Strip and Rise journey, register here: Strip & Rise 6-Month Journey with Sheila - S Factor AND MAKE SURE TO USE DISCOUNT CODE friendsofcheryl to receive $100 OFFEmail hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!Connect with Sheila:S FactorDiscover your erotic creatureLet’s Connect!  About MeInstagramSign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  YoutubeTake the Passion Quiz

We’ve all been there: Your sweetheart is on your last nerve and you feel like you just can’t be with this person any longer. Yes, even sex and love professional Dr. Cheryl isn’t immune to the negative thoughts that tend to circle a relationship. But we have to rise above all the noise, embrace the greater wisdom and realize that our problems only follow us when we walk away from them.In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear part four of my recent Dharma Talk, given at a meditation retreat that I taught. In the next few weeks, I’ll be opening the doors to my Become Passion online immersion program for couples. The 12 week course will begin the—end of October - just in time for you and your sweetheart to get ready to enter 2024 more passionate and in love than ever before.In This Episode, You Will Learn:Don’t miss out on my free 1.5 hour Passion Masterclass this October! Dates TBA (06:26)Today’s LoveByte (09:36)The truth of impermanence is that nothing, nothing, nothing ever lasts (15:55)Be wise about the difference between the data and the story, because the stories are generally the source of our suffering (19:40)All we ever have is the present moment (24:57)Listen to parts one, two and three of my Dharma Talk series. Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challengesLet’s Connect!  About MeInstagramWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

You’ve burned your toast, spilled coffee on your brand new shirt, and now you’re stuck in a line of traffic—all before you even get to work. But it’s not about what’s happened, it’s about how you react to it. Reaction is unconscious, immediate, not-our-best self, and maybe not very patient. When we just take a beat and take a breath, we can choose a better response. We may still feel just as agitated, but we can make the choice not to live in that anger. In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear part three of my recent Dharma Talk, given at a meditation retreat that I taught. Tune in and learn about patience, energy, and concentration—three of the six qualities of the heart and mind that are so beneficial for us to cultivate if we want to be happier, more peaceful, and a better partner and lover.In This Episode, You Will Learn:When we act in alignment with our deeper values, our life flows more easily (05:56)There is more than one antidote to anger: loving kindness and patience are both great ones (11:38}Your enemy is your greatest teacher (13:29)We're not really living when we're living in distraction (47:11)Concentration can lead to brilliant focus, but it doesn't reduce suffering (50:23)Listen to parts 1 & 2 of my Dharma Talk series here and here.Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challengesLet’s Connect!  About MeInstagramWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

Grown-up content alert! In this episode, I use explicit language to talk in depth about sexual exercises that you and your honey can experiment with. This content is not appropriate for little ears—this is grown-up content that will help you grow in the bedroom. Let’s face it: when two lovers have been in a committed relationship for any long term length of time, one of the first things that can fade is the passion. It’s so easy to become stuck in the rut of “Marriage Incorporated,” so how do we dig our way out? There’s no magic wand wave that can bring back the thrill, but with intentionality and the proper tools, it can absolutely be done. On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m returning to some of the questions covered in last week’s episode and doing a bit more of a deep dive on thrill and sensuality in relationships. Today, I’m challenging you to toast some marshmallows and enjoy a s’mores with your honey on the beach—and if you don’t live near a beach, create one! In This Episode, You Will Learn:Reigniting the thrill in a relationship is all about creating the mind of a lover (05:26)Relationships are complicated and everyone has emotional baggage (07:10)Scheduling intimacy can totally change your sex life (09:00)Some intimate exercise ideas if your honey is resistant to scheduling sex (13:49)Today’s LoveByte (18:11)Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challengesLet’s Connect!  About MeInstagramWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

Imagine you're out trying to recover from a betrayal. You're relaxing on the couch with your sweetheart watching a comedy special, your defenses are down, and the comedian starts talking about affairs. BOOM. You're triggered, right? You’ve just experienced a physiological response, but it’s what we do when we become triggered that’s the important part.On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m once again answering some of the most burning questions written in by real listeners just like you!Today, I’m answering questions about deep forgiveness, how to break free from Relationship Incorporated, and what happens when we keep squeezing that hot coal tighter instead of letting go.In This Episode, You Will Learn:It’s nearly impossible to cultivate intimacy and passion with your partner when you can’t let go of your baggage (05:29)We tend to hang onto old pain without meaning to because it’s difficult to let go (15:47)Being triggered is a physiological response—the best way to help it pass is to acknowledge it (23:22)Until you deeply understand your partner’s point of view, you can't heal together (26:51)Today’s LoveByte (30:14)Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challengesLet’s Connect!  About MeInstagramWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

Generosity is a two way street. It has both an outflow and an inflow; it's giving and it’s receiving. When we think of ourselves as generous, we think about being good at giving: We’re the ones who show up to help a loved one move house when everyone else flakes, the ones who pay a little bit closer attention when a friend is struggling through a loss. But the truth is, so many of us who are good at giving still struggle with being generous receivers. In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear part two of my recent Dharma Talk, given at a meditation retreat that I taught. Tune in and learn why receiving is such an incredibly important aspect of generosity—and what you can do to hone that skill if you’re feeling a little rusty.In This Episode, You Will Learn:This week’s LoveByte (03:42)The monkey may be annoying, but you can still learn from it (06:33)It’s not just about being a generous giver, you must be a generous receiver, too (29:28)I challenge you to go out and say “thank you” whenever you receive a compliment (34:30)Before we can become generous, we need awareness (50:35)Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challengesLet’s Connect!  About MeInstagramWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

Do you feel like everyone is getting laid but you? Or like if you just knew how to do that thing, you would be able to keep your partner engaged in hot and sexy time? Maybe your partner can’t seem to keep their hands off of you but you secretly find this exhausting or even overwhelming…Well, your secret is safe with me but I must remind you that navigating how we approach the expression of our sexual energy is a journey that is unique to every individual. Regardless of how society may make it seem, there is no universal blueprint (surprise!). One thing is for sure though, it's nearly impossible to get in the mood, let alone stay in the mood when we are constantly on different pages with our partners because of mismatched desires around sensuality and expressions of sexuality.  In today’s episode, I invite you and your sweetie to reconnect by celebrating National Bowling Day and National Book Lovers Day. I go on to unpack the complicated topic of Sensuality as the third side of the Passion Triangle as I continue to answer your most frequently asked love and sex questions.  Find out how you can rediscover the sacred delight of basking in your own magnetic Sensuality and listen in to hear my answers to Deandra and Dr. T’s questions: "I have a high sex drive that often leaves me disappointed because of my husband's avoidance of sex and erection difficulty - What do I do?" and "How do I work through my ambivalent feelings around sex with my husband because of sexual trauma from a past relationship?" In This Episode, You Will Learn:  This Tuesday, August 8th, get your best balls and go bowling with your sweetheart for National Bowling Day (3:53) This Wednesday, August 9th, read aloud the most erotic story you can find to your lover for National Book Lovers Day (5:51) The third side of the passion triangle: Sensuality (6:13) How Deanna and Dr. T’s questions are two sides of the same coin (7:17) My answer to Deanna's and Dr. T's questions (10:54) It's important that we create arousal for ourselves before we begin attempting to create arousal with our partners (18:56) This week's LoveByte (24:21)  Interested in the 2023 session of my Become Passion 12-week online immersion program for couples? Learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE!Email hello@drcherylfraser.com your most burning love & sex questions—you could hear them answered on air!Download the Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game Card HERE Follow  @drcherylfraser on IG to get more Make Your Lovelife a Hobby challengesLet’s Connect!  InstagramWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page