Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

Today, I’m introducing you to my grandparents Norm and Evelyn, an incredible couple who radically changed my view of what was possible in life and in love. They’re proof that it is possible to keep the thrill, romance, respect, and passion in their relationship alive for more than six decades. I’m telling you all about their awe-inspiring relationship, the beautiful, sensual way they treated each other until the end, and the lesson I learned from them about the absolute power of true love. This October, I’m going to help you fall back into like and fall passionately, thrillingly, sexily in love with your honey.Join me on the couch! For the first time ever, I’m offering exclusive office hours. Stay tuned for the date of the first exclusive chat!Tune in every Monday in October and listen to the Fall Into Love, Fall Into Like series. And don’t forget to mark your calendar for October 25! Registration coming soon!To make sure you don’t miss ANY of these announcements and links, join the no-obligation waitlist so you will be there first to know!Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4.In This Episode, You Will Learn:Norm emigrated from Wales to Saskatchewan and immediately set his sights on Evelyn (04:41)My grandmother and grandfather had a truly extraordinary love affair (09:23)It’s a learned skill to continue to romance each other, keep the thrill alive, and make sure our sweetheart knows they’re number one (10:33)After Evelyn died, it became even more evident how in sync she was with Norm—in every way (14:22)True love has the power to transcend anything, even Alzheimer’s and death (16:16)This week’s LoveByte (21:09)Q&A:How can I keep the thrill alive with my sweetheart even after so many years together? It seems impossible! Keeping the passion, excitement and romance alive is totally possible. My Passion Triangle—intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—outlines the three keys to a great relationship. Want to learn more? Check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course and learn how couples just like you have learned to create and maintain relationships that stand the test of time.Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s BedroomLet’s Connect!About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.comFacebook Page  YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

This fall, I’m helping you fall back in love with the one you're already with. I’m going to take you through the 3 keys to passion—AKA The Passion Triangle—and show you exactly how you can use each element to bring back the spark with your sweetheart and take your relationship from dull to exceptional. This October, let me help you fall back into like and fall passionately, sexily, beautifully in love—or at least get a glimmer of how that may be possible for you and your honey.Tune in every Monday in October and listen to the Fall Into Love, Fall Into Like series. And don’t forget to mark your calendar for October 25! That’s when the first free LIVE online couples workshop begins. Stay tuned to hear how to sign up. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4.Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.In This Episode, You Will Learn:The first side of the Passion Triangle is intimacy (05:20)The second side of the Passion Triangle is thrill (07:14)The Passion Triangle is the three keys to great relationship (09:55)The third side of the Passion Triangle is sensuality (11:10)This week’s LoveByte (18:05)Q&A:How can I reignite the spark with my partner and bring back the passion that we used to have? The Passion Triangle—intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—are the three keys to a great relationship. Want to learn more? Check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime and learn how to bring intimacy and excitement back to the bedroom and back to your relationship. Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.comLet’s Connect!About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion QuizBecome Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist

“Dr. Cheryl, we fight all the time and constantly blame one another… Is there any hope for our relationship?” Today, I’m talking all about negative sentiment override. It’s a tough, sad, painful topic and so many of us have experienced it in our relationships, whether or not we knew how to put a name to it. But there is hope—as long as both partners are willing to take 100% responsibility. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4.In This Episode, You Will Learn:People who are refusing to take any responsibility for the relationship problems have very little hope of long-term relationship success (04:07)If you are busy blaming your partner for their BS, you're putting the power of your relationship’s success in someone else’s hands (07:21)The minefield of negative sentiment can override your relationship (12:24)When you are in negative sentiment override, it’s hard to remember who you fell in love with (18:04)If both partners are at least a little bit willing to work on accepting responsibility, there is hope (27:35)This week’s LoveByte (28:29)Q&A:My partner calls me names and disrespects me—how can I get them to change their behavior? You need to stop blaming your partner for your relationship’s failure and take responsibility yourself. Check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime to learn how to stop blaming others and to start taking responsibility for your relationship issues. People mentioned:John GottmanWant to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.comLet’s Connect!About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion QuizBecome Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist

Why are relationships so hard? Today, I’m pressing pause on my Summer of Love couples Q&A series for a little bit of reflection. I’m talking about why we struggle so much with the thing we longed for AND why that struggle doesn’t make us a bad person.Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast during my Summer of Love series? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts November 4.Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.In This Episode, You Will Learn:We all are with the wrong person if we expect them to make us happy all the time (04:07)In my Become Passion program, you’ll learn to how to fall back in love with the one you're already with (07:41)Having a great relationship isn’t easy—it takes real, hard work (10:24)We’ve all got baggage, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing (21:26)Love Stinks and it's not your fault (24:03)This week’s LoveByte (28:06)Q&A:How can I make my relationship easier? I love my partner, but connecting is so much work! Great relationships take hard work, they don’t just happen. Learning how to have a real connection with your sweetheart takes practice and accountability. Check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course to learn what it takes to build a lasting, exceptional relationship. Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.comLet’s Connect!About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion QuizBecome Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist

“Dr. Cheryl… How can mindfulness and meditation help my sex life?” Welcome to part 8 of my Summer of Love couples Q&A series. For the last two months, I’ve been answering real questions from listeners just like you. Today, I’m talking about being more mindful in relationships and how NOT to make up stories about your sweetheart. You can look at the story, rewrite the story, and change the story that you’re telling yourself. Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.In This Episode, You Will Learn:You don't have to know anything about Buddhism to do a better job of working with your mind (07:02)It's not your fault that you're making up data about your partner, but you can change that behavior (12:42)We are wise, compassionate, loving beings underneath the stories (14:48)You're happy or not happy in your mind. Your mate cannot make you happy. (20:42)This week’s LoveByte (31:13)Episodes mentioned:Change Your Mind, Not Your MateBe the Surfboard, Not the LogQ&A:How can I stop my partner from doing things wrong and making me upset? Is your partner really doing these things on purpose, or are you just filling in the blanks? Take a step back and assess whether you’re telling yourself stories or if they’re really trying to hurt you. Check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course to learn how to build a more mindful relationship.Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom Let’s Connect!About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  Youtube

“Dr. Cheryl… Our sex life is so boring! How can we bring fun and sexiness back to the bedroom?” Today marks part 7 of my Summer of Love couples Q&A series, where I’ve been answering real questions from listeners just like you all summer long. Summer may be almost over, but my Q&A is just heating up. I’m telling you about my 3 predictors of a great relationship and sharing some really dire stats on the sex lives of the average North Americans—that you DON’T have to fall into!Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.In This Episode, You Will Learn:“Nipple, nipple, crotch, good-night” sex is totally common… and totally boring (05:10)The three keys to a great relationship: intimacy, communication, conflict resolution (07:37)We all want sex to be spontaneous… but scheduling intimacy is one of the major keys to getting your spark back (10:17)The majority of long term couples make love from a place of sexual neutrality—and it’s actually very sexy! (15:30)Waiting around for spontaneous desire is kind of like waiting around for your teenager to spontaneously offer to clean out the garage (18:04)This week’s LoveByte (28:45)Q&A:My sex life with my partner has become so boring. How can we bring back the spark? Stop being a lazy, complacent lover and start scheduling sex in order to reclaim your intimacy and bring back the spark. Learn more about reigniting that lost flame with my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course. Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s BedroomLet’s Connect!About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion QuizBecome Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist

“Dr. Cheryl… I feel like my wife and I are more friends and roommates than lovers. How can I bring some of that excitement that we had when we were falling in love?” I’m back with part 6 of my Summer of Love couples Q&A series, answering another real question from one of my listeners. Today, I’m busting the myth that men don’t care about romance and telling you why dates are one of the most exciting parts of dating. I also cover why the thrill of the chase is so important evolutionarily, why we have to learn to make time alone with one another, and why it’s so easy to fall into a pattern of relationship complacency.Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.In This Episode, You Will Learn:It’s not just women who miss the romance when it leaves a relationship (07:59)The excitement of dating comes from the chase and the courtship (12:40)Dates aren’t a place to talk about the kids or the household concerns, they’re a place to connect on a one-on-one level (15:57)The adventure date, the cooperation date, and the curiosity date are all great ideas for reconnecting with your sweetheart (17:14)This week’s LoveByte (34:30)Q&A:My relationship has lost its spark, how can I bring back our excitement and romance? One of the easiest ways to bring back the passion is to recreate the circumstances and excitement of your early relationship. Learn more about bringing the sexy back to your relationship in my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course. Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom Let’s Connect!About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

“Dr. Cheryl… My partner and I are not compatible. Are we doomed??” My Summer of Love couples Q&A series is back for part 5, answering another question from a listener just like you. Today, I’m talking about introverts, extroverts, and extroverted introverts. I’m also telling you that YES, it is possible to make things work between two very different people and how compatibility begins in the mind. Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.In This Episode, You Will Learn:An introvert replenishes with quiet and solitude (03:20)Compatibility with your partner is all in your head (10:08)You can be rapturously happy, deeply in love, and have an extraordinary relationship—even if you are wildly different people (11:39)Oftentimes the differences aren’t the problem... The problems come when we fail at our approach (16:40)If you focus on the ways you’re not compatible—on the big and small irritations—you will fester a growing wound (19:22)This week’s LoveByte (26:31)Q&A:I’m an introverted homebody and my partner is an extroverted social butterfly… will our relationship last? Compatibility is a choice and a  behavior that begins in the mind. It’s completely up to the two of you whether you can make things work. Learn more about the decision to be compatible in my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s BedroomResources mentioned:How to Build a Sex Room on NetflixLet’s Connect!About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

Grown-up content alert! In this episode I talk about sexual fantasies in some depth, using some explicit language and I talk about concepts that are not appropriate for tiny little ears so make sure that small kids are not hearing this episode. This is grown-up content and it’ll help you grow in the bedroom. “Dr. Cheryl… Why am I so turned on by the idea of being sexually dominated?” I’m back this week answering more of YOUR questions in my Summer of Love couples Q&A series. Today, I’m talking all about the beauty of sexual fantasies, why they’re healthy, and I’m debunking some ideas from that popular erotic book series. Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.In This Episode, You Will Learn:50 Shades of Grey is a dumb book—but there’s a reason it captured so many imaginations (5:04)The number one heterosexual female fantasy? Ravishment (08:24)The ravishment fantasy is so pervasive because it gives women a way to justify their raw sexual energy (12:20)Exploring your sexual fantasies is healthy and empowering as long as it's not hurting anyone and everyone gives consent (20:58)My new favorite Netflix show features the Mary Poppins of sex and makes couples’ fantasies a reality (24:45)This week’s LoveByte (27:49)Q&A:Is it normal that my biggest sexual fantasy is to be sexually dominated? Ravishment is the most common fantasy reported by hetero women. It’s normal and healthy to act on as long as it’s between consenting adults. If you’d like to learn to embrace and embolden your fantasies, check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom Resources mentioned:How to Build a Sex Room on NetflixLet’s Connect!About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz