So often we have good intentions about our health, about our career, about being more patient with our children… But we may not follow through because—guess what?—we're human! The truth is that we're just bozos on this bus trying to get there the best way we can. None of us are perfect. We're all striving to be better, forgive, and begin again.&nbsp; Welcome to episode 92 of Sex, Love, and Elephants. Every Monday in January, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your relationship with your mate. Today, your homework is to work on the Three Breath Hug.&nbsp; Tune in today and learn about the Three Breath Hug—and how it could be key to changing your relationship for the better. I’m teaching all about physical, nonsexual touch and why it’s so important to our sense of intimacy. <a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Take the Passion Quiz</a> NOW and rate your relationship on the Three Keys to Passion! In This Episode, You Will Learn:<ul><li>A quick review of this month’s teachings so far (05:29)</li><li>The majority of couples have very little physical contact outside of sex (06:26)</li><li>Intimate touch is hugging, holding hands on a walk, snuggling while you watch a movie (08:15)</li><li>Exactly how to practice the Three Breath Hug (10:52)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (14:33)</li></ul> Q&amp;A:<ul><li>How can my partner and I connect on a more intimate level? Try practicing the Three Breath Hug. You’ll feel intimately connected both psychologically and emotionally.</li></ul> Take the quiz near the top as well as win a prize—email <a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hello@drcherylfraser.com</a> your relationship reboot results and be entered in the prize draw! If you’re interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">HERE</a>!&nbsp; Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Buddha’s Bedroom</a>&nbsp; Let’s Connect!<ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li></ul>

Touch More Often: 2023 Relationship Reboot

Remember the butterflies and crazy lust you felt when you and your sweetie first started dating? When your honey gets home at the end of a long day, do you greet her at the door, practically bouncing with excitement? And what about deep communication—do you feel known on a spiritual level by your spouse? Not to mention having a rich satisfying sex life… Welcome to episode 91 of Sex, Love, and Elephants.every Monday in January, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your relationship with your mate. Today, your homework is to take my Passion quiz, an important tool for evaluating your relationship Tune in and hear a short lesson on what I call the Passion Triangle—AKA the three main predictors of an exceptional relationship - Intimacy, Thrill, &amp; Sensuality . After that, you can take my quiz to learn about one another AND rate your relationship. <a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Take the Passion Quiz</a> NOW and rate your relationship on the Three Keys to Passion! In This Episode, You Will Learn:<ul><li>Your Relationship Reboot task for this week (04:11)</li><li>A Passion Triangle mini teaching (05:56)</li><li>Passion is a teachable skill (08:23)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (13:04)</li></ul> Q&amp;A:<ul><li>Is there a way to figure out what’s wrong in my relation ship? H Check out the Passion Quiz and find out how your relationship rates in the three key areas great couples master —then learn the steps to making an okay partnership exceptional.&nbsp;</li></ul> If you’re interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">HERE</a>!&nbsp; Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Buddha’s Bedroom</a>&nbsp; Let’s Connect!<ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li></ul>

Take my 10 Minute Quiz and Rate Your Passion: 2023 Relationship Reboot

Your bedroom. The room you use to sleep, store your clothes, get intimate with your honey—is it living up to its full potential? Does it bring you peace and mental clarity to spend time there, or is it a mess of clutter, chaos, and laundry? Welcome to episode 90 of Sex, Love, and Elephants. For the month of January, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your relationship with your honey. Today’s episode is all about the bedroom—and how small changes behind closed doors can make for big changes in the rest of your life. Tune in and learn why my challenge this week is for you to give your bedroom a makeover. For couples, the majority of sexy time takes place in bed. If that space is disorganized and disarranged, it can be impossible to let go of your daytime stressors once you hit the sheets.&nbsp; Win a prize! Send a selfie of your Before and After Bedroom makeover to <a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hello@drcherylfraser.com</a> In This Episode, You Will Learn:<ul><li>I challenged my Become Passion students to redo their bedrooms—and their results shocked them (02:55)</li><li>If you want to take your makeover a step further, check out Netflix’s How to Build a Sex Room for steamy inspiration (05:31)</li><li>No devices in the bedroom… Ever! (06:40)</li><li>Your bedroom should become your sanctuary (09:10)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (16:33)</li></ul> Q&amp;A:<ul><li>How can I make my bedroom more relaxing and more sensual? Declutter, ban devices, and rid yourself of anything extra in that room. You’ll quickly see how these simple changes affect your love life.&nbsp;</li></ul> If you’re interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">HERE</a>!&nbsp; Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Buddha’s Bedroom</a>&nbsp; Resources mentioned:<ul><li><a href="https://www.netflix.com/title/81220971" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">How to Build a Sex Room</a></li></ul> Let’s Connect!<ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul>

Makeover Your Bedroom, Makeover Your Sex Life : 2023 Relationship Reboot

“New Year, new you!” Don’t you just hate being overwhelmed by a million different calls for a fresh start every year? Resolutions to get fit or to get rich or to transform your relationship are fine, but what about when it comes to actually taking action? Welcome to episode 89 of Sex, Love, and Elephants. For the month of January, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your relationship with your honey. Today, I’ve got two actions for you to jump-start your Relationship Reboot&nbsp; Tune in and ask yourself: how can I be a better partner this year? How can I be more mindful in my relationship? And how can I set better intentions? Then take action and plan an adventure date. Win a prize! Send a selfie of your adventure date to <a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hello@drcherylfraser.com</a> In This Episode, You Will Learn:<ul><li>If all we do is consume information without setting intentions and turning them into action, nothing changes (03:50)</li><li>I actively work to speak more kindly to my partner (05:12)</li><li>I’m taking my husband on a sexy adventure date (09:34)</li><li>Make an appointment and a plan to be more romantic (11:18)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (15:20)</li></ul> Q&amp;A:<ul><li>What can I do to spice things up with my honey? Take your partner on an adventure date. Try something new and share the experience with your sweetheart.</li></ul> If you’re interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">HERE</a>!&nbsp; Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Buddha’s Bedroom</a>&nbsp; Let’s Connect!<ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul>

Add Adventure and Improve Your Attraction: 2023 Relationship Reboot

You can sign up for all the triathlons you want, but if you don't buy a bike, get some running shoes, find a bathing suit, and do your research, there’s very little chance at success. Whether it's fitness or your career or your relationship, if you don't take action, nothing happens. Welcome to 2023’s first episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants. For the month of January, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your relationship with your honey. Today, I’m talking about change and why the future of your relationship may be at stake unless you can create it.&nbsp; Tune in and learn how to ask yourself and your partner the tough questions: Where would I like my relationship to be in 12 months? How would I like to feel? How can I be a better partner?&nbsp; In This Episode, You Will Learn:<ul><li>A thought experiment involving the future of your romantic relationship (01:47)</li><li>As difficult as relationships can be, you can create change (03:20)</li><li>One of the most critical questions to ask yourself: “How do I want to be as a partner?” (06:07)</li><li>97% of resolutions fail—so we’re calling them intentions, instead (08:53)</li><li>Action you can take to start your journey to a better relationship right now (09:55)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (14:14)</li></ul> Email <a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hello@drcherylfraser.com</a> with your answers to the 3 questions and win a prize! If you are interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/become-passion-waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">HERE</a>!&nbsp; Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Buddhas-Bedroom-Mindful-Lifelong-Intimacy/dp/1684031184" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Buddha’s Bedroom</a>&nbsp; Let’s Connect!<ul><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/about-cheryl/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">About Me</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/drcherylfraser/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul>

New Year, New Intentions

You may be feeling an emotional letdown now that all the hype, joy and connection of the holiday season is nearly over. Or maybe you’re feeling the aftershocks of the disappointment, the difficulties, and the arguments. Unwinding the lights from the tree, taking out the wrapping-filled trash, and getting back to real life can feel like total whiplash at this time of year—but it doesn’t have to be that way.&nbsp; This month, I’m rereleasing some of my favorite episodes about topics that crop up around the holiday season. In this episode, I’m talking about the dreaded Christmas hangover and the reason why so many of us suffer from it. Join me in entering 2023 with the commitment to figure out how to be happy for no reason, how to nurture our heart, and how to throw ourselves into the great experiences that life offers us in the coming year.&nbsp; In This Episode, You Will Learn: <ul><li>When we're geared toward the big hype of one particular day, it’s easy to feel profoundly depressed and confused after it’s over (06:39)</li><li>We’re allowed to have beautiful things and experiences—the trouble comes when we hang on to those things and we want them to make us happy, because everything ends (07:18)</li><li>New Year’s Eve is just a day, but it’s a really helpful symbol of renewal for a fresh beginning (10:37)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (12:25)</li></ul> Q&amp;A:<ul><li>Why am I so depressed after the holidays are over? If we’re hanging our sense of happiness on one particular day or time of year, it’s only natural that we’ll feel a deep letdown when it’s over.&nbsp;</li></ul> Enter to win a copy of my book Buddha’s Bedroom! Send a picture of your own polar bear plunge and tell me one resolution you have for your relationship. Email both to <a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hello@drcherylfraser.com</a> for your chance!Let’s Connect!<ul><li>Interested in the 12- week Become Passion online couples program with Cheryl? <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Learn more and join the waitlist for 2023 HERE</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here&nbsp;</a></li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul>

Best of! SLE: The Holiday Hangover

At this time of year in the Pacific Northwest, we only experience about 8 hours of sunlight a day. That can be draining, but it makes way for something magical. On the Winter Solstice, the days start getting just slightly longer once again. Minute by minute and day by day, we get a little more light in our lives once again.&nbsp; This month, I’m rereleasing some of my favorite episodes about topics that crop up around the holiday season. Let’s use the Winter Solstice as a reason to enter the new year with a renewed and refreshed mindset.&nbsp; Like the earth circling back around the sun, our relationships also experience seasons—some of them not so pleasant. From infidelity to financial betrayal, we know that even in our darkest times there’s light coming just around the corner. In This Episode, You Will Learn:<ul><li>Almost every January 1, I jump in the freezing cold Pacific Ocean for a polar bear plunge (03:03)</li><li>Sometimes all we have is the intellectual knowledge that this too shall pass, this too shall move into the light, this too will shift (11:22)</li><li>During the Solstice, I like to take stock of the darkness I’m carrying in my life and try to let go of that heaviness (14:47)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (22:45)</li><li>A daily gratitude practice that takes under five minutes—and you can start right now (23:15)</li></ul> Q&amp;A:<ul><li>It’s the holiday season and my life is a mess, what can I do? Remember that we all experience different seasons in our lives and the most important thing is to remember to look for the light,.&nbsp;</li></ul> Enter to win a copy of my book Buddha’s Bedroom! Send a picture of your own polar bear plunge and tell me one resolution you have for your relationship. Email both to <a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hello@drcherylfraser.com</a> for your chance!Let’s Connect!<ul><li>Interested in the 12- week Become Passion online couples program with Cheryl? <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Learn more and join the waitlist for 2023 HERE</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here&nbsp;</a></li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul>

Best of! SLE: Finding Light in the Darkness

This season, remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and letting them know how much they matter to you. A happy, healthy relationship involves shared rituals—why not give your lover the gift of presence? This month, I’m rereleasing some of my favorite episodes about topics that crop up around the holiday season. Today, I’m focusing on the sex and love part of Christmas and showing you some special ways to make this time together magical.&nbsp; Remember being a kid on Christmas morning, waking up even before the sun… overwhelmed and giddy at the idea of what Santa Claus might’ve brought? Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to recapture that special, magical feeling, even long after we stop believing in St. Nick? In This Episode, You Will Learn:<ul><li>Yes, you CAN make the holidays more romantic and sexy and avoid becoming totally burnt out by the end of the season (03:43)&nbsp;</li><li>It’s not about the presents, it’s about the presence (10:10)</li><li>If you've got&nbsp; little inquiring eyes and ears around, put your stocking stuffer in an envelope or add an IOU for an erotic massage (11:44)</li><li>If you don't celebrate Christmas, you don't have to put your gifts in a stocking. You can individually wrap each thing—even try a treasure hunt and hide gifts around the house (13:02)</li><li>Why not try out The 12 Days of Christmas for Couples? Instead of a partridge in a pear tree, what about dancing to a romantic song together in the living room? (17:18)</li><li>Today’s LoveByte (25:02)</li></ul> Q&amp;A:<ul><li>How can I make Christmas with my partner sexy and special? A fun way to liven up Christmas with your honey is to pick out some sexy treats to fill their stocking and sharing them together in private.</li></ul> If YOU have a question or topics you’d like me to cover on the podcast, email it to me <a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hello@drcherylfraser.com</a>Let’s Connect!<ul><li>Interested in the 12- week Become Passion online couples program with Cheryl? <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Learn more and join the waitlist for 2023 HERE</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul>

Best of! SLE: Sensual Ways to Stuff a Stocking - Making Holidays Romantic

It’s mid-December. You’ve just finished work and you’re excited to get into your comfy clothes and flop down on the couch for some much deserved TV time. Suddenly, your little night in by yourself suddenly seems a whole lot lonelier, exacerbated by the good cheer playing on every channel. This month, I’m rereleasing some of my favorite episodes about topics that crop up around the holiday season. Whether you’re deeply religious, agnostic, celebrate out of cultural identity or leave yourself out of all of it, these episodes are for you. In this episode, I discuss how gatherings of celebration can leave us feeling lonely, depressed, anxious or worse, why those feelings are completely normal, and why it’s so important to differentiate between being alone and feeling lonely. In This Episode, You Will Learn:<ul><li>We don't all go into December with everything in our life lined up, like some happy little obedient ducks in a row (05:25)</li><li>“Alone” and “lonely” aren’t synonymous—we’ve all been very, very lonely when we haven't been alone (07:00)</li><li>Allow yourself to acknowledge the truth of the difficulty in this moment and practice self compassion (21:01)</li><li>Sometimes it’s too painful to go through the rituals and family routines—it’s okay to excuse yourself from them (25:57)</li><li>Your weekly LoveByte (28:06)</li></ul>&nbsp;Q&amp;A:<ul><li>How can I get my mind off my loneliness when everyone else is out celebrating? A great way to make yourself feel better during the holidays is to volunteer or join a cause for those in need who are less fortunate than you.</li></ul> If YOU have a question or topics you’d like me to cover on the podcast, email it to me <a href="mailto:hello@drcherylfraser.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hello@drcherylfraser.com</a>Let’s Connect!<ul><li>Interested in the 12- week Become Passion online couples program with Cheryl? <a href="https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Learn more and join the waitlist for 2023 HERE</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here</a>&nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxUrfX3mFzjTmu2WtdSOeYw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li><li><a href="https://drcherylfraser.com/quiz/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz</a></li></ul>

Best of! SLE: Why “Alone” Doesn’t Have to Mean “Lonely”

Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t?&nbsp;Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job.&nbsp;As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist &amp; author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life.&nbsp; But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go.

Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

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