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Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t?Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job.As a psychologist, Bud
Latest Episode8/15/2022

NOT COMPATIBLE? Change Your Mind, Not Your Mate- Summer of Love Part 5

Ep. 66
“Dr. Cheryl… My partner and I are not compatible. Are we doomed??” My Summer of Love couples Q&A series is back for part 5, answering another question from a listener just like you. Today, I’m talking about introverts, extroverts, and extroverted introverts. I’m also telling you that YES, it is possible to make things work between two very different people and how compatibility begins in the mind.Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.In This Episode, You Will Learn:An introvert replenishes with quiet and solitude (03:20)Compatibility with your partner is all in your head (10:08)You can be rapturously happy, deeply in love, and have an extraordinary relationship—even if you are wildly different people (11:39)Oftentimes the differences aren’t the problem... The problems come when we fail at our approach (16:40)If you focus on the ways you’re not compatible—on the big and small irritations—you will fester a growing wound (19:22)This week’s LoveByte (26:31)Q&A:I’m an introverted homebody and my partner is an extroverted social butterfly… will our relationship last? Compatibility is a choice and a behavior that begins in the mind. It’s completely up to the two of you whether you can make things work. Learn more about the decision to be compatible in my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s BedroomResources mentioned:How to Build a Sex Room on NetflixLet’s Connect!About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes hereFacebook PageYoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz
8/15/2022

NOT COMPATIBLE? Change Your Mind, Not Your Mate- Summer of Love Part 5

Ep. 66
“Dr. Cheryl… My partner and I are not compatible. Are we doomed??” My Summer of Love couples Q&A series is back for part 5, answering another question from a listener just like you. Today, I’m talking about introverts, extroverts, and extroverted introverts. I’m also telling you that YES, it is possible to make things work between two very different people and how compatibility begins in the mind.Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.In This Episode, You Will Learn:An introvert replenishes with quiet and solitude (03:20)Compatibility with your partner is all in your head (10:08)You can be rapturously happy, deeply in love, and have an extraordinary relationship—even if you are wildly different people (11:39)Oftentimes the differences aren’t the problem... The problems come when we fail at our approach (16:40)If you focus on the ways you’re not compatible—on the big and small irritations—you will fester a growing wound (19:22)This week’s LoveByte (26:31)Q&A:I’m an introverted homebody and my partner is an extroverted social butterfly… will our relationship last? Compatibility is a choice and a behavior that begins in the mind. It’s completely up to the two of you whether you can make things work. Learn more about the decision to be compatible in my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s BedroomResources mentioned:How to Build a Sex Room on NetflixLet’s Connect!About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes hereFacebook PageYoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz
8/8/2022

50 Shades of Sex, Love, & Elephants- Summer of Love Part 4

Ep. 65
Grown-up content alert! In this episode I talk about sexual fantasies in some depth, using some explicit language and I talk about concepts that are not appropriate for tiny little ears so make sure that small kids are not hearing this episode. This is grown-up content and it’ll help you grow in the bedroom.“Dr. Cheryl… Why am I so turned on by the idea of being sexually dominated?” I’m back this week answering more of YOUR questions in my Summer of Love couples Q&A series. Today, I’m talking all about the beauty of sexual fantasies, why they’re healthy, and I’m debunking some ideas from that popular erotic book series.Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.In This Episode, You Will Learn:50 Shades of Grey is a dumb book—but there’s a reason it captured so many imaginations (5:04)The number one heterosexual female fantasy? Ravishment (08:24)The ravishment fantasy is so pervasive because it gives women a way to justify their raw sexual energy (12:20)Exploring your sexual fantasies is healthy and empowering as long as it's not hurting anyone and everyone gives consent (20:58)My new favorite Netflix show features the Mary Poppins of sex and makes couples’ fantasies a reality (24:45)This week’s LoveByte (27:49)Q&A:Is it normal that my biggest sexual fantasy is to be sexually dominated? Ravishment is the most common fantasy reported by hetero women. It’s normal and healthy to act on as long as it’s between consenting adults. If you’d like to learn to embrace and embolden your fantasies, check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s BedroomResources mentioned:How to Build a Sex Room on NetflixLet’s Connect!About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes hereFacebook PageYoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz
8/1/2022

Watch Your Mouth! Can Verbal Abuse Be Overcome? - Summer of Love Part 3

Ep. 64
“Dr. Cheryl…Should I break up with my verbally abusive partner?” Welcome back to the third installment in my Summer of Love couples Q&A series. Today, I’m sharing my advice for those of you that are wondering if verbal abuse in a relationship can ever be overcome .Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.In This Episode, You Will Learn:How to identify verbal abuse (4:34)The importance of taking a time out when you’re flooded (11:57)An example of a non-verbally abusive, highly emotional person (16:39)That there are countless ways to learn how to fight fair, apologize, and forgive (24:46)If you should break up with your verbally abusive partner (27:50)This week’s LoveByte (30:39)Q&A:My partner and I fall into verbally abusive patterns, can we overcome this? It is really difficult to be able to control ourselves when we are highly emotional, so taking a time out will be the greatest help to rehabilitating the pattern in addition to becoming more skillful at speaking during these moments. If you’re having issues like these, check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.Should I break up with my verbally abusive partner? If your partner is unwilling to do the work and get help to address their verbally abusive tendencies, then yes, you should break up with them.Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s BedroomGot a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.comLet’s Connect!About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes hereFacebook PageYoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz
7/25/2022

Summer of Love - August Preview

Ep. 63
This week, I’m taking some time off so that my sweetheart and I can have some much needed R&R. But I’m not leaving you high and dry! While we’re having quality time with one another and slowing down to appreciate the beautiful Vancouver Island summer, I’ve put together some questions—asked by real couples—that you can hear me answer in upcoming episodes of my Summer of Love Series.Click here to sign up for my weekly Lovebytes - Weekly science-based love and sex tips & techniques along with exclusive content—delivered right to your email box every Tuesday.Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)Some of the REAL questions from couples just like you that I’ll be answering in upcoming episodes of Sex, Love, and Elephants:My partner is addicted to porn, is there any way our relationship can recover?You talk about tantric sexuality in your book, Buddha’s Bedroom—can you tell us more about it?My guy won't talk about the sex we're not having, can you help us?Should I break up with my verbally abusive partner? Is there a way my relationship can recover from verbal abuse?Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s BedroomLet’s Connect!About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes hereFacebook PageYoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz
7/18/2022

Sometimes You’ve Gotta Rock the Boat- Summer of Love Part 2

Ep. 62
“My sweetie and I never fight… Is that okay?” Welcome back to the second installment in my Summer of Love couples Q&A series. Today, I’m telling you why lack of conflict can spell major issues for your relationship—and what you can do to help before it’s too late.Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.In This Episode, You Will Learn:Zero conflict can spell trouble for your relationship (04:29)Everyone has a different communication style—which isn’t necessarily a bad thing (05:29)Your health and happiness in your relationship may be in trouble if you don't learn how to talk about the difficult topics (07:02)There’s nothing wrong with you if your nature is to avoid conflict, but it isn’t healthy to sweep things under the rug (09:31)A technique to begin cleaning out all that crap under the rug (14:49)This week’s LoveByte (21:05)Q&A:My partner refuses to talk about difficult things and avoids all conflict. What can I do? Completely avoiding conflict to the detriment of your own happiness isn’t helpful for anyone—it is a problem if you can’t talk about the tough stuff! If you’re having issues like these, check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course.Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s BedroomGot a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.comLet’s Connect!About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes hereFacebook PageYoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz
7/11/2022

Should I Stay or Should I Go? Summer of Love Part 1

Ep. 61
“If I go there will be trouble and if I stay there will be double…” Today, I’m kicking off my 2022 Summer of Love couples Q&A series with one of my number one most asked questions: “How do I know when it’s time to leave?” Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you.Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question.” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and tell me if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This ten-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.In This Episode, You Will Learn:When is it time to leave a relationship? Only you and your partner can answer that …but I can help you decide (03:47)But…If you are in a dangerous, sexually coercive, physically or otherwise abusive relationship, this episode is not for you. Please seek crisis help immediately (07:05)Research shows that about 50% of people who leave a committed relationship DO regret it. Maybe it’s not too late to begin again (12:03)Chances are, if you leave one committed relationship, you’ll recouple. That’s our nature as a species. (13:53)So much of our relationship misery can be rehabilitated (23:04)This week’s LoveByte (33:58)Q&A:Is it time for me to leave my relationship? As long as your partner is still willing to play ball, it is really a decision between the two of you. But chances are you need some help to work through the problems…my couples program is designed to give you the tools you need.Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s BedroomGot a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.comLet’s Connect!About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes hereFacebook PageYoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz
7/4/2022

Introducing The New “Summer of Love” series - Ask me YOUR Love & Sex Questions!

Ep. 60
Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question”Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and let me know if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)Summer lovin’ had us a blast… or maybe you are overwhelmed with relationship anxiety, communication problems, and questioning whether or not you should break up with your partner. If this sounds more like your situation, then I would love to help you. For the rest of summer, I will be answering listener questions about challenging romantic situations on the podcast in a Summer of Love Series.Today, I am talking about a recent disagreement with my sweetheart that had me spiraling into relationship doom. You will hear about the specific situation that led me to spin a story out of nothing. Do you ever do that? I know that you do… I talk about HOW to work through these feelings when they happen to you. And…drumroll, please…I introduce the upcoming, Summer of Love Series - based entirely on YOUR burning relationship issues.Don’t forget to send your questions to me via email hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question” so I can answer them.In This Episode, You Will Learn:What you need to do for me to answer YOUR Love and Sex questions (3:15)About a recent fight I had with my sweetheart …and what we did about it (5:10)How I spun the story of relationship doom into a bigger deal than it was (12:15)What to expect for the Summer of Love Series (15:16)This week’s LoveByte (18:00)Q&A:How can I stop spiraling when my partner frustrates me? Learn how to accommodate your differing styles through humor, acceptance, and clear communication. And CHANGE THE STORYHow can I submit a love, relationship, or sex question for the Summer of Love series? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question”. Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and let me know if I can use your name or you’d like to remain anonymousWant to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s BedroomResources mentioned:Become Passion TestimonialsBecome Passion waitlistGot a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at cheryl@drcherylfraser.comLet’s Connect!About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes hereFacebook PageYoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz