The Next Chapter with Seun Adeyemi

A weekly reflection from Seun, also available as a letter at seunadeyemi.ca.Anxiety often moves in quietly, like a thief you let in yourself. This reflection traces two roots of anxiety in Matthew 6, misplaced treasure and a view of God that has shrunk, and what Jesus offers instead.First sent August 2026 as Reflection No. 28, "There's a thief in your house. You probably let him in."Read the letter: seunadeyemi.ca/reflectionsGet the next one in your inbox each Wednesday: seunadeyemi.caWatch on YouTube: youtube.com/@TheNextChapterwithSeunAdeyemiInstagram: @seunadeyemicfp

A weekly reflection from Seun, also available as a letter at seunadeyemi.ca.Election night went badly, and a friend realised how much of his peace he had placed in the outcome. He saw it because he had kept reading Scripture even in the seasons he didn't feel like it. This reflection is about obedience when the feeling is absent: the disciplines are not a rule, they are how God equips a man.First sent July 2026 as Reflection No. 27, "Waiting to feel ready is its own kind of disobedience."Read the letter: seunadeyemi.ca/reflectionsGet the next one in your inbox each Wednesday: seunadeyemi.caWatch on YouTube: youtube.com/@TheNextChapterwithSeunAdeyemiInstagram: @seunadeyemicfp

A weekly reflection from Seun, also available as a letter at seunadeyemi.ca.The most important financial conversation in a marriage isn't about the budget. Grounded in Genesis 2 and what it means to become one flesh, this reflection is about husbands and wives managing money as one.First sent July 2026 as Reflection No. 26, "The most important financial conversation in your marriage isn't about the budget."Read the letter: seunadeyemi.ca/reflectionsGet the next one in your inbox each Wednesday: seunadeyemi.caWatch on YouTube: youtube.com/@TheNextChapterwithSeunAdeyemiInstagram: @seunadeyemicfp

A weekly reflection from Seun, also available as a letter at seunadeyemi.ca.Every week Seun Adeyemi writes a short letter to men about faith, family and finance, and holds it up to Scripture. This short introduction explains what Reflections is and why each one stands on its own, so you can start wherever you are.Read every letter: seunadeyemi.ca/reflectionsGet the next one in your inbox each Wednesday: seunadeyemi.caWatch on YouTube: youtube.com/@TheNextChapterwithSeunAdeyemiInstagram: @seunadeyemicfp

This is Part 2 of The Next Chapter series on pornography and purity. If you haven't listened to Part 1 — Why Willpower Won't Free You — start there first.Part 1 laid out the theology: why willpower never works, what you're actually hungry for, and what the spiritual disciplines do to fan your affection for Christ. This episode is the testimony.Justin is a brother Seun does life with. For ten to twelve years, he was in what he describes as a steady relationship with pornography addiction. College. Moving back into his parents' house. His own apartment. Marriage. The struggle followed him everywhere. He tried everything — put the phone in another room, told himself no, counted the days. None of it lasted longer than a week.Then his wife had a miscarriage at five months. That loss brought him low — and brought him back to the God he'd acknowledged publicly but never really pursued. He started reading the Bible chronologically for the first time in his life. And when he got to Abraham's willingness to sacrifice his son, something broke open. He saw the gospel. And the appetite for pornography — a ten-year appetite — just left.This conversation covers:Justin's full testimony: twelve years of addiction, the miscarriage, and the moment everything turnedWhy putting the phone outside the bedroom never workedWhat meeting with God intentionally actually looked like in practiceHow pornography was just the tip of the iceberg — and what the Word revealed underneath itWhat to say to the brother who is doing everything right and still strugglingThe disciplines as the meal and the boundaries as the accoutrementsWhy obedience without emotion is not legalism — it's faithfulnessKey Scriptures: Romans 8:1-4 | 1 Corinthians 10:13 | John 15:4-5 | Romans 12:2 | Psalm 37:4 | 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 | Philippians 1:6Connect with Seun:Instagram: @SeunAdeyemiCFPLinkedIn: Seun AdeyemiCHAPTERS00:00 Cold Open — "I Would Look at Porn Every Day. I Don't Have an Appetite for This Anymore." 01:05 Introducing Justin 01:44 Growing Up in Church, College, and When Pornography Took Hold 02:50 A Ten to Twelve Year Steady Relationship With Pornography 03:13 The Miscarriage That Brought Him Low and Brought Him Back to God 04:30 Reading the Bible Chronologically — The Bible Recap Plan 05:10 The Moment Abraham's Sacrifice Changed Everything 05:40 This Is Disgusting. I Don't Have an Appetite for This Anymore. 06:47 How Pornography Fulfilled Every Role — Anger, Boredom, a Bad Day 07:34 What He Tried to Do to Stop — And Why Nothing Lasted 09:18 I Was the Biggest Hypocrite — His Relationship With God During the Struggle 10:06 Listening to Part 1 — What Resonated? 10:35 Being Intentional About Meeting With God — The God Shot 12:00 Pornography Was Just the Tip of the Iceberg 13:36 Romans 12:2 — Renewing the Mind 14:18 You Stopped Nibbling and Started Feasting — Seun Reflects 15:45 Romans 8 — Is It Possible Not to Sin? 17:06 Pornography as One Expression of Idolatry 18:54 What to Say to the Brother Who Is Doing Everything Right and Still Struggling 21:19 Our Salvation Is Not Based on Perfect Execution 21:42 Be Faithful on a Daily Basis — Prayer Without Ceasing 23:58 Psalm 37:4 — Delight Yourself in the Lord 25:58 The Election Night That Revealed Another Idol 27:00 Be in Fellowship — The Walk Was Not Meant to Be Done Alone 27:45 Practical Boundaries: Accountability Software, Social Media, the Gym 29:01 The Disciplines Are the Meal. The Boundaries Are the Accoutrements. 30:10 Don't Hang Out in the Bar If You're Trying Not to Drink 32:12 Nothing Wrong With Obeying the Lord Even When You Don't Feel Like It 33:46 Be Faithful Even When You Forget What You Read 34:55 Closing — Steward This Chapter Faithfully

It's late. The house is quiet. Your wife is asleep.And something in you — you already know what it is — reaches for the phone.This episode is for that man. Not to shame him. Not to give him another accountability app or a list of rules that haven't worked yet. But to tell him the truth about what he's actually hungry for — and where that hunger was always supposed to go.The problem is not that you desire pleasure. You were made for it. Moses stood at the edge of a mountain after seeing the Red Sea part, after seeing God do more miracles than almost any man alive, and his one request was: Show me your glory. David had wealth, power, women, armies — every earthly pleasure available to a king — and he sat down and wrote: One thing have I desired.Same hunger. Thousands of years apart.Pornography is just the wrong address for a legitimate hunger.In this episode, Seun works through what that hunger actually is, why willpower has never been the answer, how Satan's strategy is not primarily to make you sin but to veil you from the glory of Christ, and what the spiritual disciplines actually do — not as rules, but as ways of fanning the flame of affection for Christ so that lesser things lose their grip.The question is not: how do I stop?The question is: am I abiding?Books referenced:Spiritual Disciplines for the Christian Life — Donald WhitneyGod Is the Gospel — John PiperKey Scriptures: Exodus 33:18 | Psalm 16:11 | Psalm 27:4 | Psalm 63:1 | Psalm 119 | Hebrews 1:2-3 | 2 Corinthians 4:4-6 | Philippians 3:8 | John 15:4-5 | Romans 8:5-6 | 1 Peter 5:8 | Colossians 3:1-2Connect with Seun:Instagram: @SeunAdeyemiCFPLinkedIn: Seun AdeyemiCHAPTERS00:00 Intro — The Late Night Scene01:29 Pursuing Purity: Fighting for What Actually Satisfies02:20 Pornography Is the Wrong Address for Legitimate Hunger02:30 Moses: Show Me Your Glory (Exodus 33:18)03:20 David: One Thing Have I Desired (Psalm 27:4)03:56 My Flesh Feigns for You — Psalm 63:105:00 In Your Presence There Is Fullness of Joy — Psalm 16:1106:21 Christ Is the Radiance of the Glory of God (Hebrews 1:2-3)08:44 Satan Blinds, God Illuminates — 2 Corinthians 409:30 Every Time You Open That Tab — Satan Has Won a Debate10:00 Paul Didn't White-Knuckle — He Had Vision (Philippians 3:8)11:11 Every Blessing of Christ Points You Back to Beholding God12:00 You Are Not a Renovation Project — You're a Creation Project13:36 How Do You Begin to Behold Christ? (Romans 8:5-6)13:57 Spiritual Disciplines for the Christian Life — Donald Whitney15:00 Discipline 1: Feasting on God's Word16:28 How Sweet Are Your Words to My Taste — Psalm 119:10318:52 A Person Who Has Been with God Will Find It Harder to Betray Him21:17 Blessed Is the Man — Psalm 1 and the Vine (John 15)22:10 Discipline 2: Prayer23:44 Discipline 3: Worship — Every Part of Life as Glory to God24:15 Discipline 4: Serving and Stewardship24:35 Discipline 5: Fasting27:05 No Muscle Memory for Resistance28:31 I Discipline My Body — 1 Corinthians 9:2729:35 Discipline 6: Silence and Solitude32:05 Search Me O God — Psalm 13933:15 Be Sober Minded — You Are Being Hunted (1 Peter 5:8)34:30 Abide in Me — John 15:4-535:41 Purity Is the Fruit of Abiding36:30 The Question Is Not How Do You Stop — Are You Abiding?38:05 The Same Power That Raised Christ Is Available to You Now39:30 Fix Your Eyes on Jesus — Colossians 3:1-240:31 Closing Prayer

Most men know they need the church. Fewer know what kind of church they actually need.Part 1 made the case that you can't follow Jesus alone. Part 2 answers the harder question — if you're going to commit to a local church, what does a healthy one actually look like? And how do you know if what you're currently in is building you up or slowly making you weaker?In this second half of the roundtable, Seun and the brothers get into the theology underneath the church — why expositional preaching produces a different kind of Christian than topical preaching does, what Paul actually meant when he said be filled with the Holy Spirit (hint: it's not the smoke machine), and why 25 out of 27 New Testament books address false teaching, even though most churches never preach on it.One of the brothers shares the story of walking into a charismatic church where his pastor told him to put the Bible down. You're reading too much. Just feel the spirit. That moment — and what came after — is one of the most honest things you'll hear on this episode.They also get into what true discipleship looks like outside of a formal curriculum, why church membership isn't just signing your name on a wall, and why church discipline — one of the most avoided topics in modern Christianity — is actually one of the most loving things a body can do for one of its own.Watch Part 1 — You Can't Follow Jesus Alone — first.Topics covered:The death of strong biblical churches — and what's replacing themWhat spirit-filled actually means (it's not the smoke machine)"Put the Bible down and just feel the spirit" — the charismatic church moment that changed everythingWhy expositional preaching produces a different kind of Christian"I can do all things through Christ" — what Paul actually meantThe man who preached God's word from a hospital bed while dying of cancer25 out of 27 New Testament books address false teachingWhat true discipleship actually looks likeChurch membership: what it means to be part of a bodyChurch discipline: a rescue mission, not a punishmentBook recommended: Nine Marks of a Healthy Church — Mark DeverKey Scriptures: Ephesians 5:18-19 | Colossians 3:16 | Philippians 4:13 | Matthew 18 | 1 Peter | 1 Timothy 3 | Matthew 7:21CHAPTERS00:00 Intro — The Death of Strong Biblical Churches01:35 What Does a Biblical Church Actually Look Like?04:39 That Ain't the Spirit — That's the Smoke Machine09:15 Put the Bible Down — My Charismatic Church Story13:27 Why Expositional Preaching Matters14:53 I Can Do All Things Through Christ — In Context18:36 25 Out of 27 NT Books Address False Teaching20:36 Stanley Wilson: The Man Who Preached From His Deathbed26:28 Marks of a Healthy Church31:31 What True Discipleship Actually Looks Like34:54 Church Membership: Body Dynamics40:50 Church Discipline: A Rescue Mission (Matthew 18)48:29 Closing: Nine Marks of a Healthy Church — Mark Dever

You can't follow Jesus alone. And yet, millions of Christian men are trying to do exactly that.In Part 1 of this roundtable, Seun sits down with three brothers he does life with — James, Craig, and Justin — for an honest conversation about why men disconnect from the local church, what it costs them when they do, and what it actually looks like when the body of Christ shows up.This is Part 1 of 2. Part 2 — Is Your Church Healthy? — drops June 8. Subscribe so you don't miss it.Topics covered:The three types of men who aren't really in the church: the consumer, the critic, and the online attendeeJames: losing his mom to cancer — and how the local church found himWhy most men drift from church: it's a teaching problem, not a commitment problemYour theology dictates your methodologyDigital disciples — and why they give the brothers a side eyeThe lowest point of sanctification: what happens when you leave the church pridefullyRugged individualism — the cultural poison keeping men isolatedWhat real community looks like: meals, phone calls, being knownProverbs 18:1 — whoever isolates himself seeks his own desireWhat if Christ treated you the way you treat the church?Key Scriptures: Hebrews 10:25 | John 13:35 | Proverbs 18:1 | 1 Corinthians 12 | Romans 8:18CHAPTERS00:00 Intro — Seun Recaps Episode 5: The Three Types of Men 01:35 The Three Portraits: Consumer, Critic, Online Attendee 03:25 Roundtable Begins: When Did Church Become Important? 04:20 James: Losing His Mom — How the Church Found Him 07:33 A Theology of the Church: What Scripture Actually Says 09:49 From Mega Church to Reformed: The Turning Point 11:46 Digital Disciples Give Me a Side Eye 14:01 Your Theology Dictates Your Methodology 18:24 Rugged Individualism: The Cultural Poison in the Church 21:00 You Need Men Who Know What's Going On in Your Life 24:58 The Lowest Point of Sanctification: Pridefully Apart 27:00 What Real Community Looks Like 28:28 I Called You Craig — The Body Showing Up in Crisis 30:10 Proverbs 18:1 — Whoever Isolates Himself 31:17 What If Christ Treated You Like You Treat the Church? 33:00 Idolatry of Preferences: The Real Reason Men Stay Away 34:24 End of Part 1 — Part 2 drops June 8