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65. I Lied About My Virginity

Ep. 65

Today I'm fessing up and discussing the impact of honesty on personal growth and relationships. Inspired by my commitment to truth and a recent incident with my mum's car, I reflect on the dangers of deceit, drawing on my own life where I frequently found myself lying to avoid trouble or meet others' expectations. I share some personal details about lying regarding my virginity due to cultural and religious pressures, highlighting how this not only shaped my identity but also affected my relationships. Through my journey, I've learned the importance of aligning words with truth, creating safe spaces for honesty, and the liberation that comes with living authentically.


01:01 The Road Trip Incident: A Catalyst for Honesty

02:55 Childhood Lies and Their Impact on Identity

06:44 The Complex Web of Lies Around Virginity

17:37 The Journey Towards Truth and Authenticity

26:41 Creating a Safe Space for Truth

31:43 Embracing Honesty and Authenticity

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