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33: Why You're Missing The Entire Point

Ep. 33
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You’re Not Healing If You’re Not Living - What if all the self-development work isn’t landing because you’re not actually living your life?


I’m fresh out of a 6-month somatic and embodiment program (yay) and it honestly cracked me wide open. Not in a dramatic way.. but in the “holy crap, I’ve been missing the point” kind of way.


This one’s for the girl who’s tired of trying to heal her entire life in one journaling session. For the woman who’s read all the books, done all the shadow work, and still feels stuck.


In this episode, we chat about:

  • Why rest isn’t a reward
  • How society wires us to go-go-go—and why women aren’t built that way
  • Real-life ways to drop out of your head and back into your body
  • What actually creates growth (spoiler: it’s not the 12-step healing plan)
  • How to stop performing healing and start living with presence again


It’s real talk, soft encouragement, and a whole lotta reminders that you don’t need to earn your joy or your rest.


Let this episode be your permission slip to chill out, soften, and just be human for a minute... because that's entirely the point


Find me at @selfdiscoverygal

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