Join me and my guest Heid Louise as we discuss her book The Love Blueprint. You can find out more about Heid <a href="https://www.heidilouisecounselling.org/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">here</a>, and get a copy of her book <a href="https://www.heidilouisecounselling.org/product-page/the-love-blueprint-signed-preorder" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">here</a>, or on<a href="https://www.heidilouisecounselling.org/product-page/audiobook-the-love-blueprint" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> audio</a> here. Heidi is a Brisbane based Psychotherapist who works from a holistic and trauma informed framework. &nbsp;She is an experienced and qualified Psychotherapist, an Accredited Mental Health Social Worker (AMHSW), a Lvl 3 Gottman Couples therapist and a Lvl 2 (IFS) Internal Family Systems Therapist&nbsp;&nbsp; In our chat we focused on understanding Love Blueprints which is the theme of Heidi's new book. we discuss; <ul><li>the various therapeutic approaches including IFS, Gottman, and Polyvagal theory to provide a comprehensive guide to understanding relationship patterns and personal development</li><li>the concept of the "Love Blueprint," which refers to our early experiences and how they shape our understanding of love and relationships</li><li>the challenges couples face when their love blueprints and coping strategies clash, highlighting the role of therapy in providing gentle guidance and support.</li><li>the importance of understanding and compassion in relationships</li><li>the concept of triggers as flag posts for deeper healing and understanding in relationships</li><li>how joy can be challenging for individuals due to past experiences</li><li>And finally, Heidi's definition of secure love which is, after all, what we all are truly craving in relationship</li></ul> Enjoy <h2>Nicole Mathieson</h2> This podcast was created by Nicole Mathieson, a Brisbane based counsellor and couple therapist, who has a <a href="https://nicolemathieson.com/podcasts-about-relationships/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">couple of podcasts</a> and is the author of&nbsp;<a href="https://nicolemathieson.com/the-beauty-load-book/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Beauty Load, </a>How to feel enough in a world obsessed with beauty.Nicole helps men, women and couples get&nbsp;<a href="https://nicolemathieson.com/couple-counselling-brisbane/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">smarter, happier and more connected&nbsp;in their intimate relationships</a> and has various <a href="https://nicolemathieson.com/courses/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">online courses </a>and resources to support people navigating the tricky realm of relationships.

70. How to understand our Love Blueprints and find relationship peace with Heidi Louise

An interview with Helen Sheehy

Join my guest Helen Sheehy and I as we explore neurodiversity in the realm of relationships You can find Helen at neurodivergence.live <a href="https://neurodivergence.live/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">here</a> and you buy her book Moving Forwards, Working Backwards <a href="https://neurodivergence.live/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">here too.</a> In this episode we explore:<ul><li>What a strengths based approach to Neurodivergence is</li><li>Why Helen has changed the abbreviations from ADHD and ASD</li><li>Why being diagnosed can be beneficial - I share my personal experience of this</li><li>The complexity and challenges of ADH /AS combo relationships</li><li>Why AS and ADH seem to attract each other in intimate relationships</li><li>Helens' top tips for being in ND relationships</li></ul> Enjoy <h2> </h2><h2>Nicole Mathieson</h2> This podcast was created by Nicole Mathieson, a Brisbane based counsellor and couple therapist, who has a <a href="https://nicolemathieson.com/podcasts-about-relationships/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">couple of podcasts</a> and is the author of&nbsp;<a href="https://nicolemathieson.com/the-beauty-load-book/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Beauty Load, </a>How to feel enough in a world obsessed with beauty.Nicole helps men, women and couples get&nbsp;<a href="https://nicolemathieson.com/couple-counselling-brisbane/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">smarter, happier and more connected&nbsp;in their intimate relationships.</a>

69. Exploring Neurodivergence in Relationship

Two people can go through the&nbsp;same event&nbsp;and walk away with&nbsp;different stories&nbsp;about what happened. That’s right —&nbsp;same event, different story.&nbsp;And those different interpretations can quietly shape how we feel about each other, how safe we feel in our relationships, and even how much love we’re able to express. In this episode I talk about where we go wrong and what we can do to bridge the gap of disconnect, switch focus, stop arguing about our different versions and come back into connection. In this episode we look at:<ul><li>There’s Truth on Both Sides</li><li>Nowhere Is This More Polarising Than in the Bedroom</li><li>Memory: Is not to be trusted</li><li>The 3 Stances That Keep Us Stuck</li><li>How to Improve Your Relationship — Bridging the Gap</li><li>Seeing Things Differently Can Be a Strength</li></ul> <h2>Nicole Mathieson</h2> This podcast was created by Nicole Mathieson, a Brisbane based counsellor and couple therapist, who has a <a href="https://nicolemathieson.com/podcasts-about-relationships/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">couple of podcasts</a> and is the author of&nbsp;<a href="https://nicolemathieson.com/the-beauty-load-book/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Beauty Load, </a>How to feel enough in a world obsessed with beauty.Nicole helps men, women and couples get&nbsp;<a href="https://nicolemathieson.com/couple-counselling-brisbane/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">smarter, happier and more connected&nbsp;in their intimate relationships.</a>

68. Same event, different story, Bridging the gap of your different view points

How are you in conflict? I hear so many clients ask me how to stop being so intense in their moments of conflict and I always answer that it is a great question, but also it is the wrong question in a way. I think we need to zoom out. Listen in as I take you through my ideas for how to do this. Sign up to my live workshop on June 8th - <a href="https://nicolemathieson.com/relationship-class/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Keeping your cool, how to naviage conflict with grace.</a> About NicoleNicole Mathieson is a couple therapist and relationship focussed counsellor helping people come back to themselves. Nicole teaches practical experiential skills to ceate more loving, connected and harmonious intimate relationships - with themselves and their partners. Website nicolemathieson.com/Instagram @nicole.mathiesonBuy the book nicolemathieson.com/thebeautyloadGet the course nicolemathieson.com/courses

67. The mistake we make in navigating conflict.

The Patriarchy does not serve any of us and it most definitely has it's gnarly tendrils in our homes and our relationship dynamics. The way that women respond to the patriarchal influences in our relationships is often quite bitchy. In this episode, I talk about what I mean by the Patriarchy, what I mean by bitchy behaviour and I invite you to my new monthly catch up for 2025 - Bitch Club. To join the Bitch Club mailing list go here - nicolemathieson.com/btch-club/To get in touch email me nicolemathiesontherapy@outlook.com About NicoleNicole Mathieson is a couple therapist and relationship focussed counsellor helping people come back to themselves. Nicole teaches practical experiential skills to ceate more loving, connected and harmonious intimate relationships - with themselves and their partners. Website nicolemathieson.com/Instagram @nicole.mathiesonBuy the book nicolemathieson.com/thebeautyloadGet the course nicolemathieson.com/courses

66. Why the Patriarchy makes us bitches

In this episode I explore a bunch of pressures on female libido that I see over an over and yet are not commonly thought of as desire stoppers.I am hoping that this episode feels hopeful and gives you lots of options for healing and exploration where you otherwise may have been feeling stuck.This episode does come with the trigger warning of the mention of sexual trauma.Listen to the end for my top tips on what to do once you discover these barriers to your libido. To get in touch email me nicolemathiesontherapy@outlook.com About NicoleNicole Mathieson is a couple therapist and relationship focussed counsellor helping people come back to themselves. Nicole teaches practical experiential skills to ceate more loving, connected and harmonious intimate relationships - with themselves and their partners. Website nicolemathieson.com/Instagram @nicole.mathiesonBuy the book nicolemathieson.com/thebeautyloadGet the course nicolemathieson.com/courses

65. All the pressures on the female libido

And what to do instead

Solutions are good right? I am just trying to help. Yes, but we actually find it really frustrating when we are sharing an issue and our partner jumps straight to solutions. Why is that? What is going on here? And what do we want and need instead?Listen to this episode as we explore what is going on with not always loving solutions. About NicoleNicole Mathieson is a couple therapist and relationship focussed counsellor helping people come back to themselves. Nicole teaches practical experiential skills to ceate more loving, connected and harmonious intimate relationships - with themselves and their partners. Website nicolemathieson.com/Instagram @nicole.mathiesonBuy the book nicolemathieson.com/thebeautyloadGet the course nicolemathieson.com/courses

64. Why we don't always love your solutions

In this episode, I talk to my beautiful, soulful friend Kris Franken.So many people ask me how they can find themselves, be true to themselves and still be in relationship. It can be tricky to navigate. We fear that if we change and become more true to ourselves that we will lose our partner. We fear that authenticity and integrity means loss of connection. Well, today I called in Kris to talk to us about this because Kris, in my opinion is the epitomy of being true to herself, of being wildly, truly authentic, and she manages all this within her 20+year relationship.Kris shared her integrity and authenticiy with me on the Beauty Load podcast where we talk about our own true beauty.Here is the link: shows.acast.com/the-beauty-load/episodes/10-true-beauty-beyond-the-illusion-with-kris-franken About KrisMy guest on this episode is my friend, author, mentor, healer and way shower, Kris Franken. Kris is a spiritual teacher who has a background in psychology as well as in the magazine publishing world and is the author of 2 books and creator of multiple oracle card sets. One of the reasons that I really wanted to share her with you and get her wisdom into the Beauty Load is that Kris is having a deep love affair with mother earth – her take on beauty comes from a place of being deeply deeply connected in the experience of living in her body as a spiritual being in amongst nature and the miracle of life. Where to find KrisCheck Kris out on Instagram @kris_frankenKris has her second book,Wild hearted purpose which is out now. All details are at:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.krisfranken.com/wildheartedpurpose/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">www.krisfranken.com/wildheartedpurpose/</a>&nbsp;And here is her website: krisfranken.com About NicoleNicole Mathieson has impacted the lives of thousands of women through her writing,speaking, podcasts and work as a counsellor.In the therapy room, Nicole helps Individuals and couples to find a deeper and more stable connection to themselves as a foundation for their relationship with life and each other. Nicole is passionate about helping people in practical ways to feel safe and more conencted within their relationships. Website nicolemathieson.com/Instagram @nicole.mathiesonBuy the book nicolemathieson.com/thebeautyloadGet the course nicole-mathieson.thinkific.com/courses/Insecurity-to-body-confidence

63. How to be who we truly are in relationship?

Does your partner have sex tantrums?How does it make you feel?How do they feel?What is going on and how do you get out of the downward spiral of need, guilt, obligation, and then less desire?Listen in as we unpack this very common dynamic, try not to generalise too much, and as I give you a few pointers to get back to sex without the guilt, anxiety and pressure. For more exploration on sex tantrums check out Emily Nagoski's book Come As You Are. Check out my other podcast The Beauty Load, how to feel good enough in your body here - shows.acast.com/the-beauty-load Website&nbsp;nicolemathieson.com/Instagram&nbsp;@nicole.mathieson @the.beautyloadBuy the book&nbsp;nicolemathieson.com/thebeautyload

62. Does your partner have sex tantrums?

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